Finding girls

Tell me about it , it's so damn hard out there , I'm just gonna get use to being alone for now , my life isn't at a healthy place anyway .
The thing i have been doing is joining the lgbt group so far . I have met one couple that met either while volunteering .

 

I understand what you are saying. Im trying to go to lesbian meetup groups. One group were nice the other two were ok. Im just very shy so its hard.

 

Yea...but I'm still young so like uhmm....yea...

 

So...why not attempt to escape that shell of yours that's ceasing you? Nobody is stopping you from attempting. I know...I know it's not easy coming out of that intimidation but I did...well kinda. But I've leveled up comparing to my previous years of my adolescent stage and let me tell you...it was worth it. ^^

 

I've been lucky meeting people online via sites like okay cupid and in person thru lesbian meet-up groups. I'm explicit and very upfront about only looking for friends and trying to expand my social circle. :eusa_hand I find it so much easier meeting people without the weightier expectations of being measured against some standard for a life-long partner.

I've also been extremely lucky by finding that incredible spark ignited by someone I'd only ever considered as a social acquaintance.
:wow:

 

Interesting discussion.

Well I've to admit, I'm facing this too.
I'm new to Boston and finding the "right place" is one thing and conversing is another.

One thing that seems to have worked for me last week, in case you wish to try.
I went to this lgbt cafe at jamaica plain and as you said, people were talking in their own pockets. I found it hard to interact.

I was bird watching from a distance.
There was this one girl who seemed a little reticent and shy, and cute too.
Just before I was to leave, I went up to her and gave her a chit with my number on it.

I dunno if i'm plain lucky here.
We're chatting since the past one week now

 

That's probably the best way; like you said, no expectations - so less stressful I guess. I was wondering how to meet girls too, so thanks.

 

Boston is so hard whether you're new or not.

I'm not and feeling sort of isolated. I don't know anyone else who is bi. It's hard to figure out how to connect. Especially when I'm not out to my circle of family and friends.

I'd like to gain the confidence to start letting others into my world, but would like to sort of "practice" with others who have been through it.

 

Wow, congratulations, ithinkiamgay! What a cool thing to do!

 

BTW, I recently searched for the box set of the L-Word on some fleamarket-app. And I noticed that some girls made comments to some posts like "I'll buy it if you invite me to a coffee at your place ". And that made me think that this could be a way of getting to know other non-straight girls close to me (bc, I mean, straight girls would not buy that). You know, just arranging a date for buying and picking up the DVD (or other lesbian things on that online fleamarket sites) and then asking the other woman if she knows where lesbians in your area hang out etc..
If you have luck then maybe she will invite you to go out once with her and her friends, or at least give you tips to meet non-staight girls.
I don't know if that would work out, but that is one scenario that I made up in my head

 

I have that bubble happen to me at school it aint fun and i hate the lonliness i feel from it

 

I know a really nice female couple with two daughters. I can ask them how they met and their opinions if you want.

 

please do

 

Tell me about it. <_< I've been joining so many LGBT sites just to meet girls.. but a majority of the people I meet seem to be fake. :/

 

Fake ?


I just keep meeting gay men .

 

I will ask them next time I see them. They great family friends, and their fifth-grader is best friends with my little sister.

 

I tend to meet the best girls online, too bad they're usually in different states or countries :/