Came out to my mother

Hello everyone,

I have been coming to this site and reading posts for a while, but never created an account for myself until today. Your stories and experiences gave me the courage to do what I have been dreading for a very long time, and that was to come out. The person that I was dreading coming out to the most was my mother. I love her dearly and she is very conservative and religious. I was a nervous wreck, but I took her out to lunch to finally tell her.

While we were talking the topic changed to a family member who is gay and my mother told me she loved them even though they were gay, and then she told me she loved me even though I was gay. I was floored! I couldn't say anything at all, and she finally asked me, "are you gay?" I just nodded and said that I was and I have known for a long time. I told her that I have tried to change myself and I just couldn't and that I didn't want to let her down and hurt her. She was completely calm and loving and told me she loved me no matter what and that God made me that way and God doesn't make mistakes.

I never had to tell her I was gay, she already suspected from the time I was a child and asked me. What I had feared the most in my life turned out to be a loving moment that was really a non-issue to her. I have never felt so relieved in my life! I was expecting to be abandoned and disowned. I wish everyone's experience could be so warm.

 

Thanks :icon_bigg

I am still kind of stunned today. I hope this vulnerable/exposed feeling goes away though. Too bad I didn't do this when I was a teenager. Now I just need to make LGBT friends in the community and online and finally be at peace with everything.