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Please help with some guidance, no critism pleasep

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Codycody1, Dec 29, 2014.

  1. Codycody1

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    I'm a 23 year old male and had this issue for a while, I used to watch gay and bi porn at 13 bu it stopped around 1 year later And that was it, I just put it down as going through puberty, up until a few year ago it came back to my mind again, the thoughts was more erotic and harder to resist, when ever I watch that Particula porn it gets me really fired up, I know they fake it on porn because 3 times I've done things with 3 differnt lads and done more each time like first time oral, to the last time anal and I'm getting annoyed because I don't know Because I can't get a good fucking,, can I keep trying and trying until I find the right time and not be biseual at the end of it or am I biseual and will stay like this ? I don't fancy males, don't find the attractive 1 bit as I don't look at guys that way.. Can I still experiment and be straight at the same if that's possible, I can't let anyone know due to me reputation, I'm not scared but not comfortable... How do I put an end to this havok ?
     
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    You don't. You are in a stage of exploration. My advice to you is to stop trying so hard.
     
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    Hey Codycody1, welcome to EC!

    To be clear, porn is one of the worst ways to understand one's own sexual orientation. You've gone as far as experimenting with 3 guys and yet you indicate that you weren't satisfied, but what wasn't satisfying about it? Were you using porn as the ultimate standard to compare with your own experience? If that's the case, you will always be disappointed.

    More interesting is that you tried it more than once. Each time, you tried more and more things. It is often like that, once you've tried something, you need something more the next time...what you haven't tried is possibly understanding the guys you sleep with, maybe getting to know them, maybe you could change your mind about finding guys attractive, if you get to know them first.

    Experimentation is a tricky business because it involves other human beings, with feelings. As I said, porn is not the way to find out, nor is random experimenting. If you are bisexual, you should be able to contemplate a relationship with a guy as with a woman, if not, you need to think deeply and to get in touch with your own feelings.

    Stick around here at EC, you may find clues that could help you sort this all out.