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More Confirmation I'm Lesbian

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by BlackCat3929, Jan 4, 2015.

  1. BlackCat3929

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    Okay, so tonight we had an awards gala at work. My husband didn't want to go so I took one of my female coworkers as my date. I went the soft butch route..nice powersuit, minimal but well done makeup, did go with the stilleto boots, but only because they make me 6'. And man oh man, half the ladies at work who I suspect are gay and flirt with me anyway (they're femme so its hard to tell sometimes and I'm really shy so I never go beyond just being friendly) OMG were they all over me tonight. I mean when I received my award, I heard so many applause from the girls I think are hot you thought I won the lotto. And then everyone was posing for pictures with me. Someone even sat in my lap. WTH.
     
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    Sounds like a fine evening. Congrats!
     
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    what a great night! lots of reasons to celebrate! :eusa_clap Congratulations!
     
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    I think my attempt dress the part of "tall, athletic beautiful butch" came across well tonight.
     
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    I like your choices :3
     
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    Thank you Indigo. On an updated note...seems the girls I met at the club a few weeks back, well I am becoming friends with two of them. As I said before in another post, we see one another all the time around the neighborhood, and strangely enough we started conversations about stress at work (for all three of us) and photography (I have landscapes on my phone one liked so we've been constantly talking about it. We've gotten to the point now where the two of them like me to come to the club so they can chill and have a break "even though they are technically with a customer"....doesn't cost me a dime in case your wondering. As far as the owners know I'm just a regular...not their friend who is there to give them breathers from the grabby guys they deal with constantly.
     
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    I wish this happened to me I want females all over me :slight_smile:
     
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    Just be yourself an honest...works for me. I'm far from the ideal...still sixty pounds overweighr and shy as hell. But I joke and I'm a passionate person (your typical Pisces) so I can't be anything but genuine. Only wish the confidence would extend to me asking people instead of limiting myself to the role of friend because I'm afraid of taking a chance and risking being shot down.
     
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    Girls think I'm straight plus I'm feminine so I don't come off as lesbian being myself doesn't seem to be working . I would ask girls but it's just I don't know which girl is lesbian or bi either . I think think it's okay being myself but It's just how do I get girls :confused:.
    Only the men are offering but I don't want them .:icon_sad:
     
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    Lol...believe me I feel you there. I'm more butch, but I have like no gaydar, so even though I am highly attracted to more feminine ladies like you, I'm clueless as to how to tell the difference between someone simply being nice or actively flirting with me. It became more obvious to me Sunday with some girls I know....but I still can't pull the trigger because I really don't have dating experience. I had been in one relationship for over 15 years, so dating wasn't needed.
     
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    I am trying to make myself obvious by getting in the best shape I've ever been in. But that won't get me dates....it gets me looks true, but not dates. Not yet.
     
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    I hope both of us could get dates it would be nice .:slight_smile:
    I'm planning on by some rainbow jewelry .
     
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    Too bad we're on opposite sides of the country. We could be each others wings...not wingmen because we're ladies.
     
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    Yeah :icon_sad:
     
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    But see...tonight is an example of me being a chicken shit...had the bartender laughing,flirting with me...but I couldn't do it and ask her for her number. I just...left. I can have swagger when I'm just talking and being friendly but why in the hell can't o have enough guts to ask a girl out. What good is being good looking and confident when I have no confidence that I'm what someone would want when it counts
     
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    Maybe we should carry around "business cards" that we could hand to women, like your bartender or anyone we've been happily chatting with but can't seem to verbally take the next step with, which say something like:

    I enjoyed your company just now and would like to get to know you better. If you're interested, I'm at 555.555.5555. I'd like to take you to coffee on Saturday/dinner & dancing on Friday/ice skating on Sunday. Look forward to hearing from you.
    Gwendolyn.
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    My heart skipped a beat as I read your attire.

    Yes for myself also.... more confirmation that I'm a lesbian . ....
     
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    ***blushes*** thank you Ms Juliet :icon_redf