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Has anyone had a relationship with a Narcissist

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by costagirl, Jan 6, 2015.

  1. costagirl

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    Just wondering if anyone has had a relationship with a Narcissist. And if so how has it left them feeeling ??
     
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    I haven't but I can imagine it isn't fun. Is this your situation now?
     
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    Hey costagirl, welcome to EC!

    Perhaps you can share with us your understanding of what a narcissist is? The word has been used a lot lately and there may be some confusion as to what it means in the context of a relationship.
     
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    If you actually mean a classical narcissist--as in like someone clinically suffering from NPD--I haven't and don't exactly see how one really could. If on the other hand you just mean someone with a higher than average opinion of themselves, well I have quite a few friends like that...
     
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    I thought narcissitic's only have relationships with themselves. LOL
     
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    Anyone who has dated me...
    So myself, then!
     
  7. costagirl

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    I have had a relationship with someone and ive been trying to understand who they were . Ive done a lot of research and many factors point to them being a Narcassist. The reason I ask is it has left me feeling very damaged and at the lowest point in my life . If you google "Narcissist and victims of a Narcassist you will see that it mentaly affects thepeople involved with them whether it be as in a partner or a close family member ect. I was just wondering if anyone on here has had a similar expereince ?? lol @ skiff so true
     
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    I'm not really too sure what a narcassist is. It's just someone who loves themselves, right? Something of a "self-obsessed git." If you really love the person, try and talk to them, however, if you're at the lowest point of your life, is it worth the trouble you're going through?
     
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    .. only a Brit could write that !!! (*hug*)
     
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    Yes, thats true. Unless they themselves are a self obsessed git, in which case, they talk too posh to say the phrase "self obsessed git"
    (*hug*)
     
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    Personally I never had the pleasure to meet one but by what I read it would be very toxic relation. If I were you I would run as far as I could.(*hug*)
     
  12. costagirl

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    Thanks for your input. Yes its very difficult and very hard when you love that person and yes i did walk away but it took nearlly 4 years. It has just left sone deep scars and recovering is a long lonely process. Ive never spoken about it before so like i said i was just wondering if anyone had a simular experience. Anyway thanks again and if anyone is unsure of Narcissum google the narcissums victims its a good read :slight_smile: (&&&)
     
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    Oh yes. It's not easy to disengage, even once you've got them figured out. Hope you're doing ok.