well last week, i came out to one of my lady friends that had a crush on me. i am in my early 40s. i finally told her. she was disappointed since her fantasy was crushed but she was very accepting. i also attended a gay club. it was a different culture than what i was used to so that was different. i attended a neworking event that i thought may have been gay. once i got there, i realized it wasn't "gay specific" but there were likely some gay people there. well at least i went with the thought it would be gay so that was definitely out of my comfort zone. i have decided to stop going to gay clubs...there's not much ever there except eye candy. nothing wrong with having fun but expecting to actually meet anyone there that isn't looking for a hookup of some kind is not realistic. could happen but not likely.
