As the end of therapy approaches

I know that I hit an end in therapy once because I had used up what was allowed by my health insurance. But I did find some really cheap therapy at a local university where they have grad students studying psychotherapy who need to get practical experience. they are pretty flexible on their rates. they need the experience, and they do need some money because they are poor grad students. the other way to bridge the gaps are with support groups. some, led by a therapist, charge a small fee. others that are self supporting usually take up a collection to cover expenses. but just quitting therapy cold turkey can be hard.

 

Have you brought up this specifically to your therapist, this anger at yourself? Recognizing that in myself, and probing into what brought that about has been helpful. Sounds like this is a new recognition?

 

I hope it works out for you , Richie. What you wrote is a bit worrying if you're ending therapy, especially "Years of abuse mentally and physically..." If you were on the receiving end of abuse, it absolutely isn't you who is to blame. Although your post is cryptic, it sounds like maybe you were keeping yourself in the shadows, which is frequently a self-protective action for people who have been abused.

In any event, good luck.

For me, therapy never ends; I'm a lifer.

 

good luck Richie, don't be afraid to reach out if you need help from someone in a professional capacity.

 

and remember, just because it's time to end it with this therapist now doesn't mean that there won't be a reason for it in the future -- or with a different therapist. At least this one isn't worried about losing a client. good luck!

 

Exactly what I was thinking. Exactly. If you were the target and the abusers had more physical and psychological power than you did or do, THEY are the problem and, more or less, the CAUSE of your problem. If you have the ability to make decisions or choices and keep making the wrong ones over and over, then you may be contributing to the problem in a later phase.

Sometimes victims really are victims. I have a friend with two young daughters who is married to human garbage ... sorry, but not really. She's a wolf in sheep's clothing who has the poorest of boundaries and I came to learn she physically abused these young girls when they got hyperactive, didn't listen, or she was stressed. It was horrible to hear the details of this. I ended my friendship with this guy, though not soon enough. How are these young girls to blame? They're not. If they replicate what happened later, keep making bad choices, or acquire destructive habits, then they might be partly at fault, but I'm hoping that won't happen.

So, moving on, good luck with going without therapy. You can always go back. I certainly have! Sometimes it feels good NOT to be in therapy and sometimes it feels good to be IN therapy, especially if you like working with your therapist!