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Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by CyclingFan, Apr 15, 2015.

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  1. CyclingFan

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    I have one tomorrow.

    Don't think I have had one of those since...wow. :lol:
     
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    Well done! :slight_smile:
     
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    Thanks...I keep going from excited to nervous and back.

    Current status: mildly freaking out. Lol
     
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    Can't wait for details :slight_smile: Good luck!
     
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    Thanks!
    I can't believe how much has changed in just under a year.
     
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    we will require details, lots of details.:icon_wink so great for you CF. deep breaths, :slight_smile:
     
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    Dear CF
    I am happy for you as you step into your life in a new way. I hope that you are able to enjoy it, an savor the new sensations. A look, a smile, the slightest touch can be wonderful. There is no rush. Do what feels comfortable and natural. It will most likely feel more natural than you have ever known.
     
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    Hope it goes well for you Cycling Fan ( I love cycling too! LOL)
     
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    Hope all goes as you wish it. Take a deep breath, and remember not to say anything you'll regret in the heat of the moment. You're going to do fine. It's like riding a bicycle. Cheers.
     
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    Only one rule, be yourself! Good luck!
     
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    Don't think of it as a "date"; just think of it as going somewhere with a "guy friend" to do some "guy thing" together, as you probably have done a hundred times, and everything will be fine, because you already know how to do that sort of thing.

    If you think of it as a "date", you will screw your head up trying to make it like a date with a girl, only different, then you will feel awkward.
     
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    Excellent advice above.

    I would also counsel not turning this into a "data dump", it's very easy to reveal everything on a first date. Instead, leave a little off the table, a little mystery is a good thing, and keeps the other wanting more...cuz let's face it, the second date is a lot more interesting!
     
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    What and scare him away? :roflmao:
     
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    Good luck!
     
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    Yes, I can see how that could happen. I think we have a few other things we can talk about without going into entire histories.

    ---------- Post added 16th Apr 2015 at 01:26 PM ----------
    That sounds right to me. I have thought a bit about if I feel more awkward about it cause of that but I'm going to just try to not worry about that and just have a nice chat. :slight_smile:

    ---------- Post added 16th Apr 2015 at 01:28 PM ----------

    Thanks everyone for the positive vibes and the advice.

    Also, if it doesn't go well, then I'll have time to take the Jeopardy test tonight. :lol:
     
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    Good luck!

    ---------- Post added 16th Apr 2015 at 04:25 PM ----------
    Add me to the list of people who think the word "date" might be best avoided. Unfortunately, to a degree, we are stuck with it since it is simple and understandable. But it carries a huge amount of baggage, too, of visions of a date is, and expectations for it.
     
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    I don't use the word, either. To me, it's just called "getting together" or "meeting up with," or something like that.

    As for the OP, just go as if you don't care. (Maybe you really do ... oh well). If you aren't that invested in it, you can just relax. If you care too much, you might tense up. The best ones are those where you care somewhat ... but not too much. They tend to work out better. That's what I've seen.
     
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    Yeah, actually I don't usually use that word either. We are just meeting for a drink. I definitely didn't use that term when talking to him
     
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    That was fun.

    I didn't get online for the jeopardy tryout. :wink:
     
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    glad you had a good time, now details man we need details:icon_wink:icon_bigg
     
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