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I'm so Nervous

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by 99701, May 10, 2015.

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  1. 99701

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    I'm meeting a guy I met online for the first time this week. Since I've never dated, I'm worried about making a good first impression. I really hope he likes me, and I feel the same about him after meeting. I'm worried I'll say the wrong thing and screw this up. Deep down I know I'm stressing about this too much, but can't stop thinking about it. Any advice?
     
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    natural to be stressed … but remember he will be too!!

    you just need a few things up your sleeve to help break the ice
    and things to say if ever the conversation dry up
    just go with the flow .. and tell us how it goes??
     
    #2 bingostring, May 10, 2015
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    He will be tense too, first dates are always a bit awkward. Just be yourself and also maybe tell him its your first date and your a little nervous. I'm sure you'll settle down as soon as you start talking. Whatever you do, just be yourself, there's no point trying to create an impression of you being somebody you're not. I cant wait until its my turn! Please let us know how you get on.
     
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    I went on my first date with a guy a few weeks ago, and I know the feeling. Several people here gave me good advice about not thinking of it as a date, with all that pressure. Better to go into it thinking like you're just meeting a friend for a drink or whatever. That little bit seemed to help me.
     
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    Relax and be yourself. Be nice and polite and you'll be fine.
     
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    What Cycling Fan said. Think of it as meeting a new friend to enjoy something interesting together, rather than "selling" yourself as a hot date. If the two of you belong together, you will become relaxed being together, and the real you will sell yourself.
     
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    Thanks for all the great suggestions. I know I'm just thinking too much about this. I'll definitely keep everyone updated on how it goes.
     
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    You've spent the 1st half of your life, like many of us, trying to please 'everyone' else:confused:. If you are being 'authentically you' You are now discovering the 'real you'! Take a deep breath and relax.

    You can be sure he is just as or even more nervous. :tears: Many times we waste valuable energy on 'worry' over nothing when instead we discover quickly after a 1st meeting that it was for not!

    You've Got This!(!) & If you discover he's not for you, no worries. There's a BiG Fish out there waiting for You!

    Hang in There!!
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    We set the time and place yesterday. He just e-mailed me saying how much he's looking forward to meeting. Can someone speed up the clock?
     
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    Good luck! Keep us updated.
     
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    Just 1 more day to make it through. I get up tomorrow, go to work, then head for dinner. Fingers crossed.
     
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    I thought it was today! :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: Good luck again, rooting for ya!
     
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    Awesome! Me too, small world:icon_bigg I met him online a few months ago, we bonded and we're finally going out to dinner Saturday. I'm excited and nervous at the same time. He's experienced. Not if anything sexual will happen. I'm hoping for my first same sex experience after months of anticipation. (I've been bisexual for about 6 months). It will be up to him how far we go.
     
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    Wow, I'm happy for you. Good luck! :icon_bigg
     
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    Going into situations like your about to, I would haven take a cautiously skeptical yet slightly optimistic approach to the first date. An looking back on the dating I have done, that would certainly have been for good reason! That said, my very first date after coming out to myself, actually went incredibly well and resulted in the two of having a relationship, which while it ended quite some time ago, lasted for nine months.

    I hope your date goes well today!
     
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    My suggestion would be to try and learn more about him, share something about yourself as well. Be polite and don't try too much or else you might seem like you're too desperate.
     
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    Best of luck - relax and enjoy yourself
     
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    Lucky.
    Im sure it will all go well.
     
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    I woke up this morning to go the bathroom at 3 and couldn't get back to sleep, probably because I was thinking about tonight. It went awesome. I knew I was worrying for nothing. We had a great dinner and talked a lot. I think he wants to do it again soon. We totally agree on a lot of ideas concerning sex and relationships, among other things. Time will tell where this goes.:icon_bigg
     
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    That's great! :grin: Happy for you.
     
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