I went out to dinner with a guy I met online a few days ago. I messaged him and said I had a good time and would like to do it again soon. He messaged me back and said he'd like that too, but was tied up until after next weekend. I'm now waiting to see when/if? I hear from him again. The waiting is going to drive me crazy. I hope he writes back soon.
Hi.... Hope you're OK. Firstly, welcome to EC. I'm sure he will get back to you. You will probably hear from him when you're least expecting it. The waiting is driving you crazy because you are excited. I'm sure good times are on their way for you, and here's wishing you good times.. (!) :thewave:
I'm glad you had fun! In the mean time, you can focus on continuing to meet other people. I'd text him a few days before he said he'd be available to see if you can set something up.
He just messaged me. I guess that will have to do until he's free to get together again. He's very low tech and doesn't even have a cellphone.
Whoa! That is low tech. It will take serious patience! I'm glad you heard something already. That must be a good sign.
Who gets to determine the dating pace? You both do. You agreed to wait. If you got anxious and called him earlier that would be a breach of that agreement. It's good he called you but this can happen again and if it does you should wait the amount of time that is agreed on or don't agree to wait in the first place. Also, don't stress out about the cell. People managed to date just fine without them. Good luck!
Hi My advice... Dial back the excitement as it can lead to dissappointment. Rack up enough dissappointment and you stop trying.
I understand what you're saying. I have a good friend who's saying the same thing. The dating thing is just so new to me that it's hard. I do the same thing when I'm interviewing for a new job. Logically, I know I may not get it, but I tend to get me hopes up and then have to deal with the disappointment when it doesn't happen. Having people here to vent to and use for advice helps a lot.
I would like to know how the date actually went…??!! :icon_bigg Where did you meet What did you say Did the conversation flow What did you eat What did you like about him Did you come across relaxed ?? Did you spill water all over the table
Dating is new for me as well, at 42. I somehow managed to have a marriage and a prior significant relationship with a woman, with only a couple of dates in my life. And none of them with either of those women! Hah. Having a good friend to remind you is very helpful, especially someone who is currently or recently dating. Keeps you grounded cause they can bring some outside perspective. ---------- Post added 16th May 2015 at 11:40 AM ---------- Haha, and yes...deets please.
We started messaging on an online dating site. Within a couple of days I'd asked all the questions I could think of and gave him the option of talking on the phone or meeting if he was ready for either. He said he didn't like to talk on the phone and would like to meet. We had dinner at an Italian restaurant. I was nervous for a couple of days before, but it was for nothing. I was very relaxed once we actually introduced ourselves. We had a great meal and never stopped talking. We found we totally agreed on a lot of things. I messaged him when I got home and said what a great time I had and wanted to do it again soon. I got a message from him the next day saying the same thing.
"Resist at the beginning or the remedy may be too late." Ovid Give him breathing room, just like a rose in bloom, on the vine, love reaches its equal.
