Just short of 2 years ago I joined EC. I had finally decided that I needed to stop pretending I was straight, had told a couple trusted friends, and was debating how to approach my wife about it. A couple months later, Labor Day weekend, I told her and we treaded water for awhile to figure out what to do. The decision was kind of made for me a few months later when I bonded with someone here on EC, and we met a few weeks later. I knew then then that things would be changing faster than in had ever planned. Last November we filed jointly for a separation. And today, later this morning, is the final court date. I have very mixed feelings. Relief, fear, failure, excitement, all are going through my head right now. But I know it's for the best, and I can move on with my life, and so can she. And once she's self sufficient enough we'll make it an actual divorce and I will marry the man I love, and will be moving in with in a couple months. For those of you questioning or afraid or unsure, keep moving and honor what you believe is right. It's not always easy to keep on going as you face changes and uncertainties, but in the end it's worth it. Be strong.
Congratulations Choirboy on your final court date and more importantly your plans to marry the man you love. Your story provides inspiration and affirmation to me, as someone who is embarking on the coming out journey.
Hey CB, You and I both can say what a long, strange trip it's been! I'm glad things have progressed where you both can start again, it's not too late for both of you to find the happiness you deserve. All endings are bittersweet, but ending well is important and good. I wish you and your significant others all the blessings in the world!
As one chapter ends a new one begins. You've already had a good glimpse at what the new chapter offers and it's going to be good for you. I hope today isn't too stressful for you.
Happy that you and your wife have found the right path for both of you, and that you have responsibly taken the steps to make sure your wife will be financially secure without you. Good luck and best wishes for both of you.
CB - Some of us have been with you from the start. We've shared in the frustration and sadness of ending a relationship. We've shared the joy as your friendship grew into love and plans for marriage. I truly pray that God rains blessings and joy in your future life together. How fortunate you are to have skipped over the messiness of navigating the dating 'scene'. I am so happy for you. t.
What a beautiful post - congratulations to you and reminding us all that there are as many beginnings as there are endings.
Your words are very encouraging. Some of us are still struggling, so thanks for sharing... And congrats.
Choirboy - this post made my day. congrats to you and you give me hope that someday I will get to the same spot.
