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Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by confused1989, Jun 17, 2015.

  1. confused1989

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    THIS IS A REPOST FROM ANOTHER FORUM TOPIC, BUT I THOUGHT I WOULD POST IT HER AS WELL.


    okay, so i guess i will start with the fact that i am a 25 yr old married female.
    i generally identify myself as straight.

    as far as i can remember, i have always liked men, always liked sex with men, etc etc.

    well over the past few years, i have started to notice women more. the only issue i see is that sexually wise, i could not see myself going down on a women. i have no problem with her going down on me, i just couldn't do it myself. i don't really care for vaginas. But, i'm totally okay with kissing and touching and cuddling and all of that stuff, i could even see myself with the potential of a girlfriend.

    i even find myself lusting over other females sometime just as i would a male. but as stated above, i don't think i would be able to please her sexually, but i would be okay receiving it.

    so, i guess my question is, does that classify me as bi? or what category do i technically fall into?

    anyone with this experience or with answers, would be greatly appreciated.
    thank you so much!!!!
     
  2. crazydog15

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    Well, I'm only a couple of months into this whole process of understanding myself/coming out, so take this for what it's worth, but here's my recommendation: understand yourself for who you are. Don't worry about what label you might later attach to it. To me, the answer to the question, what's my sexuality? is simply: my sexuality. It is what it is. It is what I feel. Some psychologist or sex researcher might put some fancy label on it to make their data look neat, but the real answer is simply, it is what I feel, it is what it is.

    Maybe you could take the same approach. But again, this is just my two cents.