1. I'm attracted to men. When I've had sex with guys generally it has been great. 2. I've come to enjoy hanging out with gay and lesbian people quite a bit although I rarely get a chance. 3. I still find the female form sexually attractive , but less so. No slam on females of course...just a preference thing. 4. I enjoy gay and lesbian porn and stories. Hetero porn and stories less so. 5. I am not out. I can see myself coming out at some point and embracing all the good and bad that that will entail. 6. I'm Kinsey 4-5 and score high (gay) on other tests. 7. Yes I'm anxious. ?
I'd say you are, all I can tell you is that life is good outside of the closet. People will still love you and it does get better.
Chicagoblue Here's how I went from identifying as bi-sexual with strong same sex attraction to gay (even though I am married). http://emptyclosets.com/forum/lgbt-later-life/181163-married-guys-who-identify-gay.html In particular this post by greatwhale was very helpful for me http://emptyclosets.com/forum/2671922-post2.html HTH
It so strong to label someone. i think that you should know in your heart. Thats how it happened for me. I keep fighting it, but your heart and mind knows. I like you am still in the process of coming out to myself have not been able to say the words to myself out loud. I send you lots of strength my friend.
a) I love the way you kept your inquiry and overview short and concise. Thanks. b) You have to ask yourself the question, "what do you hunger for?" Deep down what do you desire. c) I consider myself a Kinsey 4-5. Less and less I feel less compelled to "label" myself. I only do so to facilitate understanding of my feelings, not so I know my role in society. As I come to understand myself, I realize I'm less attracted to women. So I relate to your words from #3 "but less so" d) As I "come to terms" with my true feelings, I'm less anxious. So my message to you is, it does get better. e) I would not judge your sexuality by what sex you have sex with. Males will fuck just about anything they can get their dick into, so I would say what you have sex with is not a good indicator. Example. I've exclusively had sex with women, so does that make me a heterosexual? No. Later man ---------- Post added 1st Jul 2015 at 08:19 AM ---------- One last thing. I see you are married. I encourage you to note, sexuality is dynamic not static. I would like to encourage you to not fall into the pit fall of "I've got to label myself so I can behave accordingly...." thinking. Deep down you can love your wife. I would suggest you watch the move, Beginners (reference link below) I love this movie. Beginners (2010) - IMDb
