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Is this common?

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by 15New, Jul 2, 2015.

  1. 15New

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    Until 2 years ago never even thought about another man. For years married and no issues on any level including sexual. About 2 years ago meet someone purely by chance at a business function. Over the course of 6 months friendship established, nothing out of the ordinary. During that time discovered he was gay, and at the time was no big deal. Thinking back certainly indications were there, I just never picked up on them.
    Over time I found myself attracted to him beyond just friendship. This was totally confusing as I had never even thought along those lines. The attraction became stronger and stronger over time. I started thinking in terms of wanted a sexual relationship. This was very distressing to me at the beginning but I started to be interested in the male body, etc. Started looking at some soft gay porn and found it pleasurable. Again this was out of character for me but I could not deny the attraction.
    Our relationship turned sexual, and frankly it was an amazing experience. I could not believe the pure pleasure I experienced with another guy. It seemed so natural and right.
    Within in months this long time heterosexual was leaning way towards gay. It was confusing at the same time exciting. My question , I find my self attracted to less macho sorts, not queens, but I prefer the more "stereotypical" gay men. I don't feel in anyway this is an attempt to have some semblance of a hetero relationship, I am totally into men and have not been intimate with a woman in 2 years and really no longer have any interest. I am coming to terms with coming out, and just was wondering about men with similar attraction to the soft side of the gay spectrum.
     
  2. danielo21

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    Hi 15new,

    This is a question I have asked myself. I seldom hear from anyone prefering stereotipycal gay traits in a partner. I am in my early twenties and came out not long ago. I prefer the opposite of you. I like guys who have masculine interests and personalities. I am not refering to muscles or any external like that, but a masculine energy. I don't know how to explain better. I am a neutral guy. I have some masculine interests such as martial arts and I "pass" as straight, but at the end of the day I very much prefer to have a more masculine partner. I prefer to be the submissive and softer one.

    One of the things that stopped me from coming out earlier was that I didn't like the gay guys I saw, not because homophobia, instead because I couldn't image being in a relationship with someone more femenine or softer than me. So I couldn't identify with the gay relationships I saw. Anyone can relate?

    I would like to hear from you and from more users about this topic. I actually think the reason that gay guys don't like femenine guys is because the majority of gay guys who are out are femenine. And the guys who like femenine gay guys are in the closet.

    And I am not happy about that:dry: