so from my last post i met someone that i am not sure of the sexual orientation. the guy could be gay, bi, or straight. when we met, we exchanged business cards. i am pretty confident that he is gay since there was a little bit of instant, stare down lets keep in contact. that said, we're supposed to meet up and after the booze wore off, i can't really remember if i was really interested in him or not or what. we met for like a milisecond. so he emailed me to hang out and we're going to hang out soon. just grab a few drinks and talk. he seems professional. but i get myself into trouble sometimes when someone likes me more than i like them. or when you go on the "date" and you realize halfway in, this person is in friendzone and not date zone. i really need new gay friends as i do not have many gay friends. but how do you tell someone, that your'e not even confirmed is gay that you just want friends and not dating? i am sure i am making too much of this since we just met, but all the times this happens and if i just want to be friends, the guy either gets made or just vanishes. if we "come out" to each other during drinks, then what should i say about dating, assuming he wants to date me? he may not. i am not very experienced. any guidance...?
also, another question i have is what happens if you meet a guy and you guys go out and you arent' really interested in him romatically but he may have friends he can introduce you to? but i find with many initial meetings you may meet a guy and he likes you more than you like him and once it is determined you're not interested in him and he is in friendzone, a lot of times he vanishes and it not going to introduce you to his friends. what is the best way to keep the bridge open in these situations.
