Fantasizing with same gender while having straight sex

Yup, I have shared this same situation and had tons of people in here agree. I had a lot of experience with men, but in my head, I transformed all of those men into very sexy women, and visualized all sorts of things that I would do with those women, in order for me to enjoy the sex too. I guess all of that experience doing that has given me a brilliant imagination, so at least some good came of it? LOL

 

Yes, and yes! Before I wanted so much to prove myself I'm straight, that I couldn't allow myself to fantasize only about girls, so I had these fantasies with girls and guys in the same time but I was somehow always focused on the girl. And I also couldn't come otherwise. And then at the end I felt guilty.
But now that I allow myself to fantasize about women, wow. Just wow. How could I force myself into this deep denial for so long?

 

It's crazy, isn't it? Thank god we are finally on the other end now. <3

 

Me too

 

I've only attempted straight sex twice and with the same guy.. No feelings for him whatsoever.. No feeling down there at all and in general a boring experience. With a woman it's totally different <3

I get turned on by women so I come when I'm with them.

 

At first I would think about women secretly, just myself. I didn't let my husband know. But then I told him about my attraction to one women in particular and he translated that into "let's buy you lots of lesbian porn"-although he bought the kind that straight me like including women that I am not attracted to at all. My husband, does not understand my attraction to women. He sees it as a physical thing which he in turn uses to get excited. It's not about that for me. Anyway, now, I am still married and most of the time have to fantasize about women to enjoy any part of physical intimacy. I prefer it that way actually. Women turn me on way more than any man ever has...the beautiful and amazing creatures they are

 

I just read "My Secret Garden" about women's sexual fantasies. It's quite dated in places, but the basic information is really good, if this is an area of interest for you. It turns out that quite a few women, even those who have never really been interested in some thing (like BDSM) have fantasies about those things. Sometimes the fantasies point to an interest, but sometimes they don't (or at least people wouldn't admit to them being real life interests).

 

Bi2me,

Ethel Person wrote a book called, 'By Force of Fantasy: How We Make Our Lives' which is really good.