As the above title suggests, I've been single for 23 years. And by single, I mean never had a relationship. Is this normal?. I think it was five years ago when I realised I would never find anyone, so resigned myself to a life of solitude. Oh well, there are worse things in life than be single.....(you could be dead). I have read (with interest) many articles on here, from both sides of the fence. Those who are single & those in relationships, and found them thought provoking. The reason I've given up with the gay community is simply because all gay men are fickle. NO GAY MAN WANTS A RELATIONSHIP, HE SIMPLY WANTS TO SHAG. Unless your a six pack donkey hung Adonis, you don't stand a chance in the gay world. Being single isn't so bad, along as you've got a good hobby!.
I'm 25 and am in the same boat as you in terms of never having a relationship. We might be pretty rare though, from what it looks like. In the past I thought I would be single forever. Now, I think I could see myself with a guy. We just need to find each other. On the contrary, it depends on where you find the gay guys. If you're using dating apps or bar hunting, obviously that is what you'll find there. You could get lucky and find a partner, but I don't know how likely that is. My current strategy is to meet new LGBTQ folks via meetup and increase my contacts/friends. Maybe at some point a common connection will result in a date for me. Who knows. (&&&) And no. I'm not looking for a muscular guy. My preference tends to lean towards a little more heavy set, bearded, and a bit hairy. Pretty simple preference, really. I'm not a huge fan of thin/muscular guys, although I do like pecs and/or man boobs. Yeah, we'll survive in the mean time. Don't give up hope though and be ready for your partner when you find each other. (*hug*)
Hi Code For Life. Thanks for your reply to my posting. I do agree with you to an extent, it does depend where your looking & what your social scene is!. I'm afraid I've given up socialising (yes, my own fault). Always worried about be chatted up, especially by the wrong types (usually senior citizens '65' plus). Sadly, my image (body type) doesn't help. I'm glad I've written this to you, I've just realised I'm my own worst enemy (no wonder I'm single). Good luck in your search mate, you sound like a fab guy.
I got you beat. Not a record I'm proud of though. I'm 52 and have never been in a relationship. I was in the closet until this year, which didn't help. I'm trying the online dating thing, but so far it's not working. I have the added challenge of being disabled. I have MS and I know not everyone will want to deal with that. I'll keep hoping.
My great aunt died single at age 99. But man she lived! ---------- Post added 24th Aug 2015 at 04:04 AM ---------- You forget... The squeaky wheel gets the media attention and that sets the stereotype the sheep of our clan follow. So... Be a goat and you will meet your goat. Get your donkey out there and avoid the silly sheep. I use to think like you. Got me married with children. I was wrong. There are good guys out there that want a relationship. PS: You are wrong too.
