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Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by CameronMR, Sep 28, 2015.

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  1. CameronMR

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    ...the ex has been going out at about 9:30, and staying out late, then there are restaurant leftovers in the fridge. He said he didn't want to date. I am happy if he is, I just wasn't ready to see it. of course, he could just be trying to get away from me for a bit. haha

    oh well. :eusa_danc
     
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    So he's bringing his date home tonight. So not ready for this... I mean it's totally ok, even though he said he didn't want to date for a long time...
    :icon_sad:
     
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    He's angry...indirect expression
     
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    HUGS!

    I would talk to him if you can.
     
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    Tried, told him how I feel. He apologized, and pointed out that stew not together. He also claims there's nothing physical, even though she asked about being friends with benefits.
     
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    Does he have to do it right under your nose?
     
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    We want going to, but I need to go practice at the student lab for my skill assessment, he sees he can't because he had a date, then said that she can come to or house. All this ave I didn't even know he was putting himself or there, let alone met someone
     
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    That sounds really awkward. :frowning2:
     
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    Whoa. Very awkward. Didn't you just come out to him very recently?
     
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    I can understand him staying out, getting time and distance and all that. I can even understand him rebounding into another woman's arms. However, I think bringing her to your house is crossing a boundary if you are not completely comfortable with it. You don't sound comfortable to me. If this is the case I think you have to lay down some boundaries soon. You've told him he can date, if he wants to be in a home environment they can go to her house.
     
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    Agree with Zen
     
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    I'm not comfortable with it at all. I also have no choice , I have to go out. I need the lab practice before my exam tomorrow morning. I made it clear they are not to do anything on my bed. :frowning2:

    I came out to him 2 weeks ago tomorrow.
     
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    Absolutely. This is WAY too soon and has revengeful overtones to it. I hate to say it but I think he's trying to hurt you. Either he has a complete lack of comprehension of the fact that now that you're an out lesbian, you still care about him and that his actions can still hurt you, or he does comprehend completely and is choosing to do this in a vengeful manner. I do not see any other reason why he'd bring her to the house. If the woman is any kind of person, it should be very awkward for her as well.
     
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    Uhhh, yeah, that definitely seems like a big "acting out" on his part.
     
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    I'm sorry you're in this crappy position. I still think it's your home and it should be respected. You can tell him you're not comfortable with her being in your home especially when you aren't there. That is totally reasonable. Then if you have to go out for work /school take your valuables with you or get them into storage. If he decides to disregard your wishes some other action would have to be taken. I'm thinking you could make friends with a couple of bears and have them over then see how comfortable he is with it. (!) :icon_wink
     
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    Haha I don't even know any bears. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: small town problems... He insists the are just friends(lol that tried to auto correct to just croutons) but he went on to tell me she had big Boobs and just had a miscarriage, just left her husband and they were swingers. TMI

    Ffs
     
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    Hmmm. Sounds like he's got the brain power of a crouton. Apologies to croutons everywhere.
     
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    :badgrin:
     
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    Wow. Just wow. That's all I have to say.
     
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    Someone is angry, hurt and doing mean and vengeful things because he is angry and hurt, even if he doesn't see it. I'm sorry.
     
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