Are you really comfortable being a homo?

I'm quite comfortable having a same-sex partner.

"Being a homo?"

Rethink your language here.

 

I love being queer, I love my sexuality. I love the way women make me feel, and embracing my feelings for women has made me more in tune to my feelings for men (being bi)...funny I wasn't simply ignoring half my sexuality, by ignoring my instincts and feelings I was putting a wall up to all of my sexuality. Because it's the female side I've pushed off the most, women are much more on my mind now than men. But anyway, my sexuality feels sweet now, and intriguing, and wonderful. My life is a total f*ing sh*tshow... I can't go very far with exploring these feelings.

But now that I've finally taken the glove out of the box and put it on, it feels f*ing good. It feels natural and right.

 

^Agreed. 'Homo' is pretty degrading...

But yes. I do love being gay! :eusa_danc

 

I would like being a homo if I were able to explore it more. As it is, I am OK being a homo.

I feel perfectly fine with reclaiming this term. Reclaiming a term means we have power and the term doesn't. I like the provocative phrasing of this post.

 

I'm getting used to it more and more. It's taking some time, especially getting to the point where I can know that being gay and having same-sex relationships is normal and healthy. Now as far as getting lusty, I don't need to do much to feel lusty. :icon_wink

Okay, so you used the word "homo"... I tend to agree with CapColors on this one. I don't think I should feel afraid or uncomfortable because someone uses some word to say that I like other men. I do like other men! I think the big problem on the language front is that there really haven't been any neutral or positive terms for someone who is attracted to members of the same sex. So now we've got to either make up some new ones or reclaim some old ones.

 

Well, ok. I'm fine with "queer" But it's an adjective, damn it. I don't care for the verb form. I am queer. I am not *a queer*. Fuck that.

I get that homosexual has both a noun and adjectival form. I guess the noun form simply doesn't apply to me...I'm not gay. But one could say that I do have strong homosexual tendencies, in that I enjoy sex with women.

But I would similarly never call myself "a bi". Both "a bi" and "a homo" come off like "a queer" to me, and my gut reaction remains...fuck that.

 

Of course, lesbians are awesome. XD

 

No not yet, but maybe. Well no, I was not even comfortable when I identified personally as bisexual. Identifying as gay is a still a little...strange. it feels good. Like a new blanket, I know eventually it'll break in and be perfect but for now I'm still getting used to the feel.

I was embarrassed last night talking to my husband about my feelings towards a friend. It's still strange to know these thoughts are not necessarily bad...

Did I answer the question?

 

I could not be happier. Part of that is because I have fully embraced being gay, partly it is because of knocking down all the walls connect with being in the closet. In all, I can be myself, with whoever, wherever.

 

I wasn't at first.

I was upset by it at first and tried really hard to push it away and pretend it didn't exist. THAT did not feel very good at all.

Then, when I decided to stop running and embrace it, everything changed. I felt better about myself, my life, everything. Now it feels like the most natural thing in the world, and I wonder why I was so afraid for so long to just be the person that I was all along. Being the real me and being free to love who I love has been life altering for me in all the best ways.

So yeah, it feels great! (!)

 

I love it, it feels right. Also a bit surreal. The more times I am with a woman, the more natural it feels. So amazing!

 

Heh. Fair enough. I'm not up for taking on grammatical issues all bi myself. Political ones, maybe, but never grammar.

 

Did I honestly say "verb form"? Criminy Jickets. I hate when I do that. Of course, I meant I don't care for the noun form. Actually the verb form is kinda cool, and seems to have arisen totally organically (e.g., "queering up one's wardrobe").

Anyway...it's this kinda shit that makes people guess that I teach English or some other nonsense like that (no, I'm not saying it's nonsense to teach English...just to think that I do). *sigh*

 

Oh I know; I just wanted to make a pun.

I like all the forms, tbh. I wouldn't mind being called "a bi" particularly, but I don't feel strongly about it.

I like queer as a verb, too. I wish I could tell everyone to go queer themselves.

 

I'm gay and like snuggling with guys in bed I'm a lot more comfortable now than when I started to come out. My personality is no longer bifurcated between a faux straight persona and my true self. I'm starting the phase where being gay is no longer all I think about.

PS - No issues with the occasional use of homo in EC thread titles. IMHO the use of "homo", "faggot" et al. by homophiles helps me to embrace these words and they lose their power when hurled at me in anger by a homophobe.

 

Ditto here, I actually am happy to embrace them.

 

I prefer "gaymo." And I'm getting there. I sorta like being a gaymo.

 

Gaymo! Love it. Mo' gay in yo' gay. Gaymo.