My college friend was floored when I came out to him over breakfast. He is the first person from my past that I shared "I'm gay" with. I was in the "sweaty palms" stage as we were discussing some other topics and just told him I had something personal to share. He didn't get into this "I knew it all along" thing. He just wanted to know how I came to the conclusion and what it means going forward. I felt some weight lift...it felt good.
I am so happy for you! I am still feeling that heavy weight and hopefully once I get up enough courage it will feel good and I will be relieved. I am glad he was accepting, even if he didn't expect it.
Congratulations on coming out to your friend Chicagoblue. The friend I wanted to come out to yesterday moved and has a big mouth, so I decided to hold off until I see him in person. He has other gay friends, so he'll be supportive.
My friend knows a lot of people but I'm trusting he'll be discreet. He seemed sad...like he just lost a friend. Been a little up and down today. Just gotta keep going.
Maybe he is just a bit confused with the new information and he needs time to process it? Congrats though, it's not easy to come out to people you know for long time especially face to face..I only did it through Fb chat with my friend, and I guess that made it a bit easier for me...
It's a start. He's religious (a good guy), intellectual, and sooo straight. (!) Not sure coming out to gay gays really counts ha ha.
Congratulations Chicagoblue. It's always interesting when the topic comes up. Since my Facebook posting last month when I see people that showed support I always thank them. Last week I bumped into an old friend who left a very nice reply to my post. Of course I thanked him. He was very supportive. Growing up he'd be one of the last people I'd ever think would be supportive. Just the opposite. I told him it really meant a lot that someone I've known for almost 40 years would be so supportive. He said we've been friends a long time, you'll always be my friend. Besides I have two in my family. No big deal. In a half hour I'm having coffee with a friend who was a blood brother back when we were kids. When I told him he said that he loved me so much that he'd share a house with me and whomever I was with that's how much he loved me. Chicagoblue hope your friends are as accepting and loving as mine. #itgetsbetter is so true.
Wonderful Chicagoblue! No matter how your friend reacts, coming out is an important step for you, and each time you do it, you gain something and grow as s person. If it were otherwise, palms wouldn't get sweaty
I think I'm more afraid of coming out to gay people in real life. Not sure why...I imagine someone my age who has been out since eighteen years old or something...not sure what reaction would they have... ---------- Post added 14th Oct 2015 at 06:18 PM ---------- Or very young and out people who can't comprehend that maybe sexuality is not so black or white for everyone.. But then again, this might be just my mind scaring me about stuff which aren't real.
Congratulations! I am glad it went well, it must feel great. Thanks for sharing your story, even though I have been out for a long time, I remember the feeling. I am sure your courage will help others on here who are on the cusp of coming out