My cousin's wedding was this past weekend. I had RSVP'd before coming out to the ex, and since we're still close friends he came with me. Now, I had chosen not to tell the family we had broken up because I didn't want them to treat him any differently. But my cousin pulled some strings and got us the most romantic suite they had at the fancy hotel we stayed at so we could have relaxing, romantic alone time. She even got us a gift basket!!! But... Since coming out he has been wanting one last roll in the hay, so we did. It wasn't terrible but it just kinda cemented my gayness. I told him never to ask again.
I can relate. After coming out to my spouse, she had a renewed sexual appetite. Our shags were a nice physical release, but lacked the added sparks of being with a guy. The contrast reaffirmed my gayness as well.
There was a joke going around a couple of years ago to the effect that whenever there is an awkward moment a gay child is born... Hey, you did what you could, and you were kind, no worries, life goes on!
that being the case, i have caused/participated in more gay children than i can count ---------- Post added 3rd Nov 2015 at 01:26 PM ---------- to the OP, glad you have cemented things in your mind, clarity does give a measure of peace.
I wouldn't fret over it. Seems to me that sex is more awkward than not most of the time. That was very thoughtful of your cousin.
