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I totally came out - on Facebook

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by SnowshoeGeek, Nov 18, 2015.

  1. SnowshoeGeek

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    I've been gone... Exploring other sites to meet people, meeting people in real life, finding a local kinky group that has lots of queer-ish folk. (Find a kinky group!) And most notably befriending a man in a poly triad, where the younger woman would like to have children. After a few days of texting with him, when he told me that about her desire for children, I said, "Omigosh, I would totally marry her! I'd love to have babies with someone!" And what proceeded was the most amazing conversation and it really made me happy. I have no idea what will come of him and this situation. I mean, technically SHE would need to fall in love with me, not just him! But gosh, it felt like a whole new door was thrown wide open that I hadn't even seen before.

    At that moment, I made an immediate and irrevocable decision... I posted this on Facebook:

    Well... go right ahead and click the Unfriend button if this is just beyond the pale. But I could truly see getting married to a beautiful young woman who would like to have babies with me. ‪#‎zomg‬

    I got Likes and comments from some friends, some coworkers, and some family. Every freaking person is going to know now. And I am SO HAPPY. Holy crap! :eek::eek::eek:
     
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    Oh shit yeah holy crap (!)

    That's bloody fantastic. So proud of you :grin:
     
  3. SnowshoeGeek

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    :lol::roflmao:

    Thanks! Yeah. I'm a little bit freaked. Kind of like I jumped into a really cold pool. Yep, I'm definitely alive now! I was starting to wonder... :grin:
     
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    Congrats Snowshoe!!


    Great to see you :slight_smile: but happy for the reason behind your hiatus. Sounds like you've been having fun and doing great. So glad you're out there exploring and that you felt so comfortable with yourself to post that message :slight_smile:!

    Go you!:thumbsup:

    and ps I'd totally have your babies :kiss:. We'd have the cutest little nerdlets. :icon_bigg
     
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    Gosh, and I was seriously hoping you'd offer, too! (*hug*):kiss:(!):kiss:(*hug*)
     
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    Anytime :wink:
     
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    Congratulations!! :icon_bigg I'm glad it went so well for you!! :icon_bigg
     
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    I love it! Congrats! I saw a meme that said, "Keep calm, I'm just gay," and I've been totally wanting to post it on my wall. Everyone really important to me knows anyway, but I just haven't quite gotten to the point you're at yet. I'm so happy for you!
     
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    Woooow :icon_bigg I'm smiling so much, how cool! :eusa_clap Your future looks bright and rainbow shimmering :newcolor:
     
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    so nice snowshoe!
     
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    Awesome! You will be a great parent! You've got all the nerd/geek references down (which is really the important part of parenting!) :slight_smile:

    (!!)
     
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    Congrats to you! That has to be exciting :slight_smile:
     
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    Go Snowshoe Go!

    I love finding such exciting, inspiring posts here on EC, giving hope for a whole bunch of us folks on here with Kinky groups to boot.

    I cannot wait for the day when I can make a similar post on F/B - doubt that I will shock many, almost ready to smash the door.

    J
     
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    Go Snowshoe Go!

    I love finding such exciting, inspiring posts here on EC, giving hope for a whole bunch of us folks on here with Kinky groups to boot.

    I cannot wait for the day when I can make a similar post on F/B - doubt that I will shock many, almost ready to smash the door.

    J
     
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    Congratulations!! Your story is inspiring for me! :grin:
     
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    Go Snowshoe Go!

    I love finding such exciting, inspiring posts here on EC, giving hope for a whole bunch of us folks on here with Kinky groups to boot.

    I cannot wait for the day when I can make a similar post on F/B - doubt that I will shock many, almost ready to smash the door.

    J
     
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    Such a liberating experience. I was so humbled by the response to my Facebook Outing.

    Congratulations and hope you find the love you want.
     
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    That's great Snowshoegeek. What a cool start to this new chapter of your life.
     
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    Thanks everyone! I can't believe what a short time here did for my confidence. All your examples of facing and accepting the truth...

    Yesterday at work I interacted with a couple of people who had "liked" my FB status update. I was waiting for something weird to happen, some comment, innuendo? Nothing. Absolutely nothing changed.

    MY GOD WHAT HAVE I BEEN WAITING FOR???
     
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    Good job Snow!!!!!

    (I always kind of wondered what you were waiting for too. And now no more waiting! :grin: )