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Rainbow Socks

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by yeehaw, Nov 26, 2015.

  1. yeehaw

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    Hey there EC folks,

    I'm getting dressed for a Thanksgiving gathering (US holiday that usually involves lots of food and families gathering). I put on all black clothes (extremely common for me) and rainbow socks (not at all common for me--they are usually black too). And I'm surprised by how emotional I am about it. In some ways it feels really good to have the socks on (I've been wearing them on the weekend fairly often) and also I have a giant lump in my throat and kind of feel like crying. I think I'll leave them on, but I'm taking black socks with me in the car in case I chicken out. It feels so silly to me to be this emotional about socks, but it turns out I am indeed emotional about socks. Sigh. The t-day gathering will be more than half folks who are not straight--probably more than 2/3 not straight. Most of them know I'm gay and most of them have known me for a lot of years--some way more than a decade. Many of these people love me. Probably everyone will be cool regardless of my socks but I'm feeling really insecure about it anyway.

    Sigh.

    Thanks for listening!
     
  2. CapColors

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    Wear the socks! Wear the socks! :slight_smile: no one is gonna freak. They may not even notice.

    Happy thanksgiving!
     
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    Definitely wear the socks, sounds like a great way to brighten your outfit. Socks matter :slight_smile:
     
  4. yeehaw

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    In the process of loading kids and food into the car I forgot the spare back ones. So rainbow it is. :slight_smile:

    ---------- Post added 26th Nov 2015 at 01:20 PM ----------

    Thanks for the encouragement cap'n and irish!
     
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    Anytime yee, everything happens for a reason. Enjoy your holiday!
     
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    Sounds like a de"light"ful addition to thanksgiving!
     
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    Wear the socks! And have a great time!
     
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    Rainbow socks FTW! I was a wuss and took my rainbow bracelet off for the festivities. I admire you! Virtual high five!
     
  9. yeehaw

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    This made me smile. :slight_smile:

    ---------- Post added 27th Nov 2015 at 08:02 AM ----------

    Thanks everyone. I wore the socks and actually felt really really self conscious about it. :/ And had some fun anyway.
     
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    I imagine you were more conscious of them than anyone else. I'm glad you had fun. :slight_smile:
     
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    Well, how'd it go?
     
  12. yeehaw

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    HiZen,

    Oh it was fine, though not exactly comfortable. I felt really self-conscious about it. I would find myself trying to sit in ways that hid my feet (didn't have my shoes on--no one did), and then I'd realize I was doing that and would sit in ways that were physically comfortable for me (though I found this to be emotionally uncomfortable). I frequently found myself needing to very intentionally redirect my thoughts and attention to connecting with people rather than obsessing over what people thought of me wearing rainbow socks. The people I was with are all really kind, loving people and most of them know that I fairly recently figured out I'm gay. It was a lesbian couple hosting the gathering, and lots of people there were not straight. And my experience so far has been that not-straight people very often have deep wells of understanding and patience for the awkwardness of figuring out sexual orientation late in life. And alongside all of my emotional discomfort I chatted with people, played with my kids, played with other people's kids and felt loved. So that was all good. Maybe I wasn't quite ready for the socks? Or maybe I needed to wriggle outside of my comfort zone just a little bit to feel what it's like to own being gay just a teensy bit more? Probably more the last one.