How many times in your life have you been in love?

Good question........

I have trouble picking out the crushes from the true loves, but just sitting here right now, I'd say the answer is two. And the first one was unrealized at the time; I was that far in the closet, I tried to make sense of my feelings for him in nonsexual ways, but it didn't take long for me to realize that yes, I was in love.

 

i've had lots of crushes, loved twice but have only been " in love" once

 

So far, 3. But none of them developed into anything at all, so I'm not sure if that counts. Can it be defined as love if it wasn't reciprocated?

 

2
My husband and (differently, but still quite strongly) my best friend

 

No, quite the opposite. I thought I knew what love was when I got married, but then I met someone who blew all prior emotions out of the water. That's when I knew what it was to be IN love.

 

I feel like I've been in love three times. But maybe I'm wrong. Part of me has always believed that falling in love isn't the hard part at all.

 

Four times. I know that sounds like a lot, but I love so much.

 

Once. I always thought I was incapable of loving. Never loved any men. And now Ive loved a woman. Though, looking back I have possibly loved other women without realizing exactly what it was. In that case its more like 5 times

 

Twice. Maybe three times if I'm being honest with myself.

 

I don't know. I honestly don't know.

 

It's an interesting question. I would say four times--and as I think about it I lived with a guy for a year and a half as a couple and he doesn't make the list. Hmmm.

 

I always ask myself what I am willing to give up for love. If I think about it, and the answer is a great deal of sacrifice, then yes I think that's the moment that I am in love.

People, I believe, are naturally selfish. Self-preserving. And to be able to put another person's needs ahead of yours, to me, is true test of love.

If it doesn't hurt, then it isn't love.

Now having said that, I think I may have been in love around three times. And somehow, I just know in that moment that I am. It's electric, explosive, depressing, delicious, delirious, intense, addicting, crazy and happy all at the same time.

 

I'm 40 years old and I've never been in love. I've had a few crushes, but they were on women at a time in my life when I had no clue I was gay so I didn't even understand that what I was experiencing was a crush. I actually thought I was incapable of crushes and being "in love" (and actually questioned if "in love" was a real thing). Now I don't think I am incapable, but haven't experienced it firsthand. I read a rumi quote earlier today that said something like do not seek love but instead seek to tear down your own barriers to it. This quote is making so much sense to me right now.

 

As someone who is in the closet still, I think they may have been a guy in my past that was a big crush, and was borderline love. So if you count that, two.

 

No idea. I thought I'd loved a whole load of people. Then I realised I never loved them at all. Now I'm not sure if anyone can love another person unless they feel pretty great about themselves first. And I certainly don't feel great about myself or the world in general. So. That's a rubbish answer for you.

 

I've never been in love. Had a few crushes that being in the Closet never allowed me to be able to have a relationship.

Funny thing is one of the guys I had a crush on in High School today has turned out to be a self absorbed ass.

I'll keep trying and hopefully I'll find love some day.

 

I agree with this 100%. I thought I KNEW what love was in the past. But now that I am with my girlfriend, THIS is what being in love feels like. And I have never felt this way before.

 

not more than 10 but if your talking about real love and really having relationship with them 4 and the recent one just broke up with me and 3 days after she's in relationship with someone else. But even if that's the case it's a lie to say I don't want her back and I don't love her anymore and damn it still hurts! :bang: :tears: :icon_sad:

 

Ouch! That's gotta hurt. Can you try to remember lots of things you don't like about her and dwell on them instead of the good things? Or invent some even? (*hug*)