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Unless I chicken out, tomorrow is the first step!

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by gaydad917, Nov 29, 2015.

  1. gaydad917

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    I am planning in telling my aunt tomorrow that I am gay. She will be the first person that matters to know. I am already super anxious about it. Wish me luck! Next step will be telling the wife. :icon_sad:
     
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    Congratulations! Tomorrow is actually my planned first step for coming out as well, which made me a little shocked to see someone else posting that on the forum. I wish you the best of luck!

    I'm sorry about the wife situation too, man. I've been in the closet more than a year longer than I would have otherwise just because I have been too scared to come out to my girlfriend. I can't imagine having to tell your wife. But you'll be okay.

    Best wishes! Good luck! And an early congratulations!
     
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    Very good luck. Is there a particular reason why you have chosen your aunt? What sort of reaction do you expect from her?

    Will you (both) let us know how it goes? Remember, we are all here for you and wish you the very best. :slight_smile:
     
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    My aunt is like my mom, only better. Haha. She is my best friend, we talk multiple times a day, every day. I expect nothing but the best from her. I feel like I need someone to help through telling my wife. I will definitely let everyone know how it goes. :icon_bigg
     
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    Good luck!!! Let us know how it goes!
     
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    Yep, good luck gaydad, I totally understand what you are feeling right now but it's such an important first step in making it real. As everyone else has said, we are all here for you.
     
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    Good luck! I hope it goes well. I will be following your updates. Glad that you have someone so caring to open up to!
     
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    Really hope it goes well for you. You're very brave. Good luck.
     
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    Thank you all for the support. It feels great to have people to just talk to. I will make sure I let you all know how it goes tomorrow night!
     
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    Good luck! I'll check in to see how it goes. (*hug*)
     
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    Good luck. It's so liberating to tell someone for the first time that you are Gay.
     
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    Good luck with this! It really does feel like a huge load has been lifted from your shoulders after you have told someone. Also, it feels like you tear down a wall that has existed but not letting people see the real you!
     
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    Ok guys (and gals), today was wonderful! My aunt was exactly like I thought she would be. Totally understanding, let me talk, asked questions, was just perfect. She is worried about what is going to happen with my son when I come out to my wife, but thats it. Like some of you said, I feel 100lbs lighter already and it was only one person. :grin:
     
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    Yay! Good for you. :slight_smile:
     
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    Congratulations!

    I'm happy for you :slight_smile:

    This was a huge step. Be proud of it.
     
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    AMAZING!!!! Very happy for you. Congrats!
     
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    That is so great! It takes a lot of courage and I am so happy that she acted as you expected. You now have someone to confide in. You are on a great journey my friend!
     
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    Isn't the air so much better outside the Closet?
     
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    Congrachulations!
     
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    :kiss:Thank you all for your kind words! It is great to have some support through all this for sure!