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First real date with a woman!!!

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Soundofmusic, Nov 29, 2015.

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  1. Soundofmusic

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    Hii!!
    Some of you may have seen my story. Long story short, I fell in love with a woman who led me on for months, later to claim shes straight and it was all a joke. Im finally getting over the heartbreak and have FINALLY come out as not straight to all my family and friends (did this over thanksgiving - cried - rejoiced). Everyone's been really great. My mom cried because she thinks she wont be a grandma now but otherwise shes been cool.

    Anyways, I signed up on a dating app to meet girls. There are no gay bars where I live and I run in a VERY straight circle. I matched with this REALLY cute girl who is just my type phisically and after talking for a while, she asked me out for a drink or coffee and I said YES. Im super excited but scared. Shes so attractive and I think Im very pretty but Im also a bit chubby (latina curves lol - think America Ferrera). My pics on the app just show my face and idk if shes expecting something different!!

    This is just an insecure rant but I just wanted to share that Ive come out, and Im taking the step to meet new people and give this a shot!!!
     
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    Aw, that's so cute. I wish you guys the best of luck! Be confident - you like her, she likes you, and that's all that matters. See if you can take it a step further :slight_smile:

    Also, congrats on coming out! I'm really happy for you.
     
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    Thank you!!
     
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    This is awesome!! And America Ferrera is totally gorg/adorable.
     
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    Great!

    Just wear something you're happy in so you don't think about your body.

    And have fun!
     
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    Congratulations!!! I'm so happy for you!

    Good luck! Tell us how it went afterwards, ok? :slight_smile:
     
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    Awesome! Have fun and be confident :slight_smile: let us know how it goes.
     
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    Cool to hear, just make sure to stay safe on your date and those that may follow.
     
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    That's awesome, good for you, and I too really want to hear how it went. I think there are some vicarious onlookers here. :slight_smile: lol
     
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    Yay! Also America Ferrera is like my dream girl so you're gonna cut it! :grin:
     
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    I agree with Really: choose something you love how you look in it (or as close to love as you get), and try to have a great time! Lots of people like a bit of curves on their women (like my husband, thankfully :slight_smile:)
     
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    Good Luck!

    And please come back and let us know how it goes? I have to live vicariously through the romantic lives of strangers on forums...

    Sad but true :grin:
     
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    Thanks everyone!!! Im gonna find a great outfit, eat well tomorrow and just put my best self forward. I know I have a lot to offer and Im usually pretty confident but I think Im getting insecure because this is all just so new to me. Are girls as superficial as boys when it comes to dating? I know I am a bit... And this girl is just sooo cute.
     
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    Ok so initially the plan was coffee during daytime, and she works close to where I work so it could be good. But now she wants to grab a drink in the city after 9:30pm and im such an old lady that Im like terryfied Ill fall asleep. I have a ton of work events in the PM this week except tuesday, which is when we have the date planned. Idk if I feel super comfortable going all the way into the city at 9:30pm for my FIRST date with a girl I met through an app... Advice?
     
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    Be honest, tell her you are more comfortable grabbing a cup of coffee during the day. Maybe drinks in the city for a second date, who knows? Have fun!
     
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    I would be honest and reschedule if possible. That's a LONG way to go from Newark.
     
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    Wow, that's great. Good luck, and have fun!

    And yeah, if you can find a place a little closer to you, that might be easier for you.
     
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    Stick to your guns and say do you mind if we just have a coffee for our first meeting?

    I made a terrible error of not only agreeing to meet someone new late in the evening for a drink but after I'd already been drinking all day at a party. I was blackout drunk but functioning, barely remember a damn thing about it and she pretty much hated me. So....
     
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    Especially if it's a work night... Seems like coffee closer to home is a much "friendlier" type option. It's hard to get into the city, expensive to park or take the train, takes a lot of time, and then you will be home super late!
     
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    YOU GUYS it was SO GOOD. I had such a great time.

    It was a bit awkward at the beginning but then we started talking and conversation flowed well. Shes really cute and quirky and hot at the same time. Like WOW. Into the conversation she asked me if Im a lesbian and if I have had a partner and I was really honest with her and she was really cool and understanding. Shes had a partner before but just recetly came out to her family and friends.

    At the end of the night she said she really enjoyed my company and she later sent me a text saying shed love to See me again. I got a bout of bravery and texted: "you are beautiful and super interesting. Id love to see you again". And she answered: "i think the same about you".

    OMG IS THIS REAL LIFE??!

    So she thought I was beautiful which is great considering how insecure I was about that part. I really had so much fun and Im so glad i went.

    Thank you all for the advice and support!
     
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