So I need to tell my husband that I am a lesbian, no one knows this except my therapist. But after reading what others wrote, I learned that I should probably start some where else safe, it might not be a great idea to have my husband be the very first person I come out to. I just called my cousin and I told her! I am full of emotions: relief, sadness, excitement, fear....it makes everything so real. She was completely awesome and supportive..ummm.. she even said she figured I was going to say I was lesbian. What?? I guess I was in complete denial. :eusa_doh:
The first time I told someone (one my closest friends), I felt such relief afterwards. you think your head that it will go so horribly and sometimes the person really surprises you. Good first step!
This is similar to how I started coming out. I told my therapist, then a very close.friend, and then my husband. (Incidentally, the close friend that i tild has known me since i was 5 and told me she wasnt exacrly surprised to learn i was gay.) I'm so happy that your cousin was supportive. It's great to have someone who is not a spouse (and not your therapist) as a support person before talking to your husband. It's smart to have a support network on place as you figure out what comes next.
Great to hear! It's so important to receive support from the first people we tell, I think. When we first come out we are a lot like children, it seems to me, innocent children who are speaking from our hearts and just need to be seen and respected, and we need to hear that it's okay to speak from the heart. Congratulations!
The support, understanding and love of your cousin is probably the best holiday gifts one could ever get!
Thank you everyone! I appreciate your words of congrats! I could not have started this process without reading all the brave stories here. We gather strength from each other.
That's great, congrats! It's funny how people are often not surprised at all when we come out to them...they're like, yeah... They know us better than we even do!
