Holy crap, did that just happened?!?

Same thing happened to me a few years ago I had a plan; wait until after the holidays and then spill all...
The pressure of knowing that that was potentially our last Christmas ate at me and after too much to drink, I told her I was gay.
Well done for being honest takes real guts. Hoping your Christmas is happy and your new year authentic

Peace

 

Wow congrats!
Really nice to hear that she's taken it that well.
Must've been like a early Christmas present to you.

 

That is so great! :eusa_clap:eusa_clap(!):eusa_clap:eusa_clap Thanks for sharing your story here! It seems as if the coming out process has gone so well for you. Keep us up to date on how things go. There are so many road maps out there and it great to see yours. The thought that there could be happiness after coming out as a gay man brings me some happiness - and hopefully some courage.

 

Way to go!! I also have a plan to wait until after the holidays to tell my husband. It is great to hear that the world doesn't end when you come out to a spouse.

 

God I'm so jealous. Way to go.

 

Congratulations :eusa_clap Doesn't it feel great be on the other side? ride:

There are likely to be bumps on the road as she digests the news, and we'll be here to support you.

 

There will be difficult days ahead, but none so difficult as the days of anxiety and crushing, circling thoughts that you have been living with. For now, you can pause and breathe, knowing that it's out in the open. You can work the rest of it out (together hopefully) later.

Hoping you have a happier Christmas!

 

Wow brilliant, well done. I guess you'd planned to have the chat after Christmas because you didn't want it to upset/ruin Christmas. It's not surprising that our partners/wife/husband can sense something is wrong... And coming out as bi or gay is sometimes better than cheating etc. From the initial chat there will be many ups and downs and stages of anger, grief, denial etc.... But you have made a big more and should be very proud of yourself. Happy Christmas!

 

Well done! You're wife is obviously a star! Hope the rest goes well too. Happy holiday

 

wow, that took a lot. good job. like others have said there may be swings in mood etc. but you cant put the tooth paste back in the tube now. Have a Merry Christmas to you and your wife.(*hug*)

 

That's a great saying 'looking for me'.... Can't put the tooth paste back in the tube!!

I viewed it more like dropping a load of bombs... Some exploded immediately, others went off over the next few weeks/months. Hopefully they've all exploded now!

Happy Christmas everyone! X

 

Congratulations!

Now you can spend the holidays without the stress of anticipating that confession. I'm proud of you for being honest, and I'm glad your wife was so supportive!

Keep updating us with how you're doing. We're all still happy to provide support.

 

This is so awesome, and encouraging to read! What a wonderful way to begin the holidays.

 

Wow, dad, how *awesome* for you! Appreciate your first Christmas of visibility! *hugs*

 

I agree with Patrick, as usual. I think as a couple there are difficult days ahead. Marriage is based on trust and commitment. Your inability to be fulfilled shows a lack of commitment and I don't even have to go into the trust issue. To me it sounds like your problems are just beginning, not ending.

 

Congratulations! Let us know how everyone is doing. (*hug*)

 

I can understand your immense relief at having done it! Such a good message to read on xmas morning. It has made me feel good, just feeling your joy. Now the real journey of the real authentic you can truly begin…

 

That is amazing, you are lucky you have a supportive wife who was willing to talk things through with you.