So in a fit of loneliness and boredom I decided to reactivate a date site account I from years ago , this time as a women seeking women - well I got a few matches one that was of particular interest to me and I was apparently noticed back ..... So do I take the next step and send her an email ??? Honestly I hate those things but I have no real link to anyone that's gay and my age in my area.... So
I don't think you have anything to lose by sending her an e-mail. If it doesn't go anywhere, at the very least you have given it a try.
I'll echo everyone else and say to take a chance and see what happens. I've been able to get to know two of the most incredible people out there by starting a conversation and putting myself in a vulnerable situation. The odds may not be great, but the potential payoff is worth it and there's not much downside. Good luck!
Great!! Thanks so much I think what has been holding me back is that I'm not totally out.... Do I say that up front first thing ??? Should I have put it in my profile ??? Send something like "Hi I think your beautiful and we seem to have a lot in common, just thought I'd tell you I need to keep one foot in the closet or I'll loose the job I love, hope that's not a deal breaker." Call me insecure but that sounds awful So I ask my ec friends what am I supposed to say???
Yeah...no, I wouldn't go into all that right up front. Just send something short and friendly to say hi and see if she responds. Keep it light. You are just saying hello right now.
Yeah... I was kinda being facetious but it is a huge concern of mine that I won't find anyone unless I'm completely out But its just a hello right?? No need to think it will go anywhere until it does
Yeah, go for it, but don't tell her everything! Not being out wouldn't be a deal breaker for me, as life is just complicated and I could understand the myriad reasons someone would want to stay mostly in the closet. If it's right, she'll be okay with that. If she's not okay with it, she's not the right one.
Thanks to all. Email was sent she replied right away , not sure how to go about this whole thing first of all I'm not into the date site thing havent really dated in years second well she's a women, I've never done that before I've had a serious relationship for years but she was a close friend and it turned into more it was never a date type thing.
