Just when....

(*hug*)(*hug*)Ranting helps. At least, it helps me. So does letting myself feel whatever it is I'm feeling.

Feel free to rant about the spanner in your wheel.(*hug*)

 

Try to untangle, what the first end of a string... What's bothering u the most! And then second and so on

 

Just rambled it out if you want, maybe someone can help untangle it

 

I try to remember that I am not the spanner aka the Buddhist idea of not-self. I am not my thoughts. They arise and fall. If I feel "sad" that feeling is not me. It is a feeling, an unpleasant one, but it is not who I am. It arises, and it falls.

Pain, trouble, life with come and it will go. You'll still be here

Take heart.

You're tougher than this.

You've lived through worse.

PC

 

Just stopping by to say I'm here to listen too (*hug*)

 

For me, dealing with this was like trying to separate charmed lights from storage lol it took forever and I wanted to give up but finally I got it together and things are brighter (bad and cheesy comparison, but it's early here lol)

 

Can you be more specific? Certainly the process of sorting things out can bring to light new things to sort out, that's part of getting to the bottom of things.

In general, your best approach is to divide and conquer. Take baby steps.

 

This you is perfect though... It's the you the world needs, if you want to share more details we are here for you

 

I sent you a pm. (*hug*)(*hug*) Be strong, this is really hard, I know, and I know you have a lot of pain in your past, and I know that this part of coming to terms with your orientation and things in your life is also painful.

I agree with what others have posted in taking this by smaller steps, sorting out small pieces, and don't think about the whole picture. Sometimes that can be daunting. Instead, try to get through one thing, and push the pause button for a while, then work through another piece.

And remember that you can always come here for support. We're always here to listen.

 

You want to bin the part of you that likes other guys?

 

Hey Boatman, i found it useful to write things down, that way i can see them physically and it helps me sort things.

 

(*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)(&&&)

It sounds like you made a huge step. Good for you! And it's wonderful that your wife is being supportive. I'm sorry you're feeling so much hurt right now. But you have a lot to be proud of.(*hug*)

 

I'm glad she's is being supportive and giving you time to sort this out. Keep us updating on how you are doing!

 

It sounds like you're just hitting overwhelming feelings of guilt about hurting someone. I think that sounds normal and maybe universal.

We are here to listen. We are! You can babble. Maybe just pour out all the negative garbage, self-hate or whatever is floating in your mind, write it here, and have it said, and then perhaps your mind can start to slog through what comes after that stuff?

(*hug*)