What to do? Six months in to a relationship with a man, who regularly reminds me he's straight. I'm in love with him. We're not out to anyone. My heart is being mangled a hundred times a day.
Hi Hazelnut, Welcome to EC :welcome: You'll find EC to be a safe and welcoming place to talk about your sexuality. You are in a tough place being in a relationship with another man who identifies as straight and reminds you about it regularly. Clearly he is denial about his own attraction to other guys. Despite his assertion that he is straight, he appears to be bisexual and possibly gay based on your relationship with him. I totally understand why your heart would be mangled a hundred times a day given his behavior in this situation. Can I ask a few questions that will help us understand your situation better? Is the relationship monogamous? Or more to the point, do either one of you have girlfriends? Is he in love with you? How do you identify? It says straight under your user name. Is that how you identify? Again, welcome to EC. PS - I really like your user name.
Ok, I don't know all the detail, however: Your profile says you are straight, your bf and you are not out. Under what circumstances is he saying he is straight? Is it when you bring up idea to come out/live/build future together? Agree with SiennaFire - like hazelnuts
If he keep telling you that, maybe he is not sure of his sexuality. Ask him I he likes to be with you and why. Ask him if he sees a future with you.
