Hi I just want to make a start, and I don't care how long it takes, I am coming out by the end of this thread! I am married with kids and a mortgage, but have been wrestling with my sexuality for years and years, and I have finally woken up to the fact that I am just, flat out, gay and it's time to start dealing with it. Any pointers would be appreciated friends! Look forward to the journey of finding happiness as my true and genuine self, and hopefully making some (gay) friends along the way.
Welcome, 20 years ago I did what you are doing. I feel for you. It is a difficult path. Stay strong my friend. Things will work themselve out. ---------- Post added 8th Apr 2016 at 09:10 AM ---------- Welcome, 20 years ago I did what you are doing. I feel for you. It is a difficult path. Stay strong my friend. Things will work themselves out.
Best for you, you are brave to follow your inner strength. All depends on how understanding your wife will be. Will be hard for her as well..
Welcome to the club! It's great that you're taking the first step to acknowledge your true self. This is a great community you can turn to for encouragement and advice when you need it. Sometimes during the process you may just want to vent, and that's okay too. Look through the last few pages of threads and you'll find some good places to start finding inspiration.
Hi Pauleaton, welcome to EC! I went through this about 3 years ago, it is not only survivable, it is thrivable...you can make it, and we'll be here for you!
I did it just over a year ago and it isn't easy - but you know that. My only advice is to have some sort of plan for yourself. It seems that emotions are always a part of someone's coming out and expected. If I could make any recommendation is to have a strategy from a financial position. Not all the i's dotted or t's crossed but a general if-then-what type of strategy depending on how your conversation turns out. Best wishes to you Paul.
