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Is it possible to be so far in the closet you don't know it?

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by hin, Apr 14, 2016.

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  1. hin

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    I'm 20 years old and have never previously questioned myself. Maybe I have been so far in the closet all these years that I didn't even know I was gay. Though before this I have always been attracted solely to girls and had a long relationship of 4 years and we had an active sex life. Plenty of people have questioned whether I am gay and I have had a few advances from gay people.
    Pretty confused about who I am at the moment. I have never found myself sexually attracted to a member of the same sex, but I feel that I could possibly be in the right situation with the right person..? I have thought about it for a while and have become increasingly open to the idea. I have found myself looking at a guy and finding them attractive, but never in a sexual way. I have tried gay porn and fantasies but it doesn't really work for me, I can only become semi-erect. Though I have found no problem with straight porn and fantasies.
    Is it possible for my sexuality to change or am I just noticing something about myself that I have never known before. Any thoughts?

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    Sorry, wrong forum! How do I delete this post?
     
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  2. looking for me

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    when i was a teen i buried my sexuality and gender so deep and got so good at not even thinking about deflecting etc issues that could dig them up that i totally identified as straight and cis. it was only when i got to a certian place in my life that i could acknowledge my sexuality and gender that things made sense to me.
     
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  3. Forhim

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    To answer your question, yes. Go read my post epiphany a few weeks back. I stuffed my sexuality for many years.
     
    #3 Forhim, Apr 14, 2016
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