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Getting Divorced

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Grace66, May 2, 2016.

  1. Grace66

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    Haven't been around too much in the last few weeks, there has been a lot going on.

    However, tomorrow morning I will officially be divorced. After being married for 12 years and having one child I will be leaving behind my heteronormative life and embarking on a new adventure. I. Am. Scared. To. Death.

    I know that this is the right thing. But it is still damn scary.
     
  2. Really

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    Good for you!

    Do you have anything planned for the day? Some activity with someone? A meal at a nice restaurant or something so you can inject some happy times into a potentially emotional day?

    Or maybe go to a fancy bakery and get yourself a slice of some decadent cake to celebrate the start of your adventure.

    Don't be scared. I believe this is when the good stuff starts.
     
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    Embrace this new chapter in your life. It is scary but think of the blank pages in front of you. This is where you write your story. Start fresh.
    I agree with Really, do something for yourself. Celebrate your new life. Do something fun or indulge in something delicious.
    Keep us posted on your new life. I am just starting the process of my divorce, but I cannot wait to begin new.
    Good luck.
     
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    Hi, I left my husband, it has been bumpy but I know it was the right thing to do. I have got through by living by the moto of " one day at a time", looking ahead was too much for me. When my divorce came through I didn't want to tell anyone, I was quiet with it.

    I changed my name just days before the divorce came through, changing my name helped, I felt so much better not being Mrs.

    I didn't want a fuss so I had a quiet treat out. Do what feels right. It surprised me to feel grief especially as I had ended it. It's a big change so its bound to feel scary. Post how you're doing. Hug.
     
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    I agree with these other posters, commemorate your pain, mark it. But treat yourself right.
     
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    I agree with the grief post. I was the one who ended my marriage, and yet it still seemed to involve quite a bit of time to work through the grief. The problem I had was not recognizing that it was a process. It definitely takes time. Focus on yourself and your needs right now.
     
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    Best of luck.
     
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    I'd like to toss in my vote for commemorating the day somehow. How is up to you, but it should be memorable. We leave ourselves behind in so many ways that I think it's important to remember those moments in our lives that define us, or change our definitions of ourselves. Life is growth and change, but rembering defining moments can be a good thing.

    It's ok to be scared :slight_smile: I was terrified the first time I ever presented as female to anyone but my reflection. But the first thing someone said to me was, "Oh my god, I love those shoes!" And suddenly it was better. I hope your experiences are good!

    Morgana