...when you feel like you're the only person going through something! Of course, naturally, this isn't true I'm sure. I am married to a man, a wonderful understand man who is totally cool with me being bisexual. I didn't actually put that word to it until a year or so into our marriage and only told him when I realised, if that is acceptable to say. Needless to say, a lot of things have started to make sense to me since my realisation. This issue I am having is that having not been with a woman, I am increasingly starting to feel like I am missing out on something and I feel awful for thinking this. I can't even put a finger on what I feel I am missing out on and I am starting to question myself all over again. I am not alone am I?
You are not some. 34 yo married female going through the same thing. I only identified as bi, last week. ---------- Post added 18th May 2016 at 01:09 PM ---------- Alone. Not some.
Hi caliwoman, nice to talk to someone going through the same thing! Can I ask what helped you identify?
Hi Kypso! Welcome to EC! I think you'll find many familiar stories here (mine included). Don't be afraid to reach out and ask for help!
Hi! Unbeknownst to me, I fell in love with a woman last year and was the last to realize. Lol. That woman I fell for, after 8 months of not talking to me, just text messaged me yesterday but it wasn't for me. My thread is: http://emptyclosets.com/forum/lgbt-later-life/212797-soooooooooo-sexually-frustrated.html I, too, feel like I am missing out. My husband just can't compare to what I feel I can have with a woman. It's frustrating.
Ah thanks for saying that, I totally understand that frustration. My husband is lovely but just isn't a woman and whilst I am still attracted to him and men generally somewhat I feel I am missing out on a closeness I don't think I could achieve with a man. I don't know what to do, it's eating away at me ---------- Post added 19th May 2016 at 07:05 PM ---------- Thanks for that WanderingMind! I have been here before when coming out which was so helpful, such a nice community here. What is your story?
Hi Kypso. Welcome to EC! You are definitely not alone. I am also married (to a man) and identify as Bi. I have been with women in the past when I was younger and a crush on a lesbian work colleague recently has made me question if I'm happy in my marriage and also if I'd be happier with a woman. Did anyone make you realise you were Bi? Were you attracted to women when you were younger? ---------- Post added 19th May 2016 at 08:37 PM ---------- You might find this thread useful: http://emptyclosets.com/forum/lgbt-later-life/209900-embracing-your-bisexuality.html
Thanks for that dirtyshirt84! I have never been with a woman, kissed is as far as it has gone. The weird thing is I am sure I have always really felt this way, I had strong attractions to women when I was younger but I think I misplaced them as just 'wanting to be close and spend time with them'. I think that's the best way I can describe it. I have always actually found women's bodies much more attractive but still find men attractive of course. I actually only really gave it this word and admitted it to myself and my husband about a year ago! I can think back to times when this makes total sense up to about 12 years ago when I was a teenager! So much makes sense now! It's really odd, like I was lying to myself and almost believing it. I was somewhat of a tomboy when I was younger and I think part of it was that I didn't want to be a bit of a cliche! I remember looking at someone I know who is female and being attracted to her and wondering what she looked like naked and it literally hit me like a tonne of bricks! Since then I am much more accepting of it in myself and a few friends now know as well as my husband. I am starting to question myself more and more especially because my husband's sex drive is much higher than mine. I wonder if in fact I just want sex with a woman more...???
