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Well here we go.....

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by whizbang, May 23, 2016.

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  1. whizbang

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    So, here we go.

    Tonight i talked to my mother and after all of the usual chit chat, updates on weather, relatives, i told her that we need to have a private conversation when i visit this weekend.

    I suppose there is no turning back now. I feel like i have to do this as i am tired of keep up the facade of being straight. I wish to be an out gay man and just get on with my life.

    How is she going to take it? Well i don't know. Indications would seem that she might take it pretty well, then again, i could be completely wrong.

    I am prepared to tell her that the way she raised me had nothing to do with it, nor did any accident happen while i was in the womb. It's quite simply the genetic card that i was handed at that moment in time. To top it all off, i am quite happy where i am in my life.

    let it begin....
     
    #1 whizbang, May 23, 2016
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    Congratulations!!!

    I think it's probably more about you than her - I mean you getting up the courage, having the balls, to be truthful, and who you are. She will react how she will react - there's not a whole lot you can do about that. I can only think, that doing it with love... as a loving expression to her, to reveal yourself to her, as your mother, it can't help but deepen the relationship. Good luck!
     
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    Best wishes to you friend! :slight_smile: I am often surprised how positive people are or how it isn't even a 'thing' for them!
     
    #3 kypso, May 24, 2016
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    Best of luck to you Whizbang
     
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    Good luck, you're going to do great!! Keep us updated.
     
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    I've been thinking about it all day and rehearsing what I'm going to say.

    However, when the moment comes (and knowing how my mind works in these sort of situations ) something of the sort will probably leave my mouth:

    "Mom, i need you to know that im lawnmower.":eusa_doh:
     
    #6 whizbang, May 24, 2016
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    You are soooo courageous. I am in aww of your courage. She sounds a nice mum....good luck with the grass lol .
     
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    LOL, you will do great Whiz(*hug*)
     
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    Just follow it up with, "... aaand by lawnmower, I mean gay." :icon_bigg

    I hope it all goes well for you. Let us know, if you don't mind.

    I'll keep you in thoughts this weekend!

    Morgana
     
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    LOL


    i will post as soon as it over
     
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    Thanks guys, this means a lot to me!(&&&)(*hug*)

    ---------- Post added 25th May 2016 at 10:59 PM ----------

    I promise i will keep you updated on how it goes
     
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    Well I arrived home but I may have to delay the big news. My brother is here as well and thats when Mom goes into high-stress mom mode.

    I really don't want to think that I'm chickening out, but you know this is some heavy news that I will be giving her. Which leads me to the following question :

    When is a good time to tell some you love something like this?
     
    #12 whizbang, May 27, 2016
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    Don't think there is ever a good time. I'd just go for it.
     
    #13 Justasking100, May 28, 2016
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    Whiz...Good Luck, but you do it when you are comfortable with the situation at hand. I for one do think it is important for all parties involved, that timing in relation to what is going around you and the people you are telling is at least in the least stressful mode as possible. We are here for u
     
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    There never is a good time, you planned, you prepared, now it's time not to procrastinate and, as Nike says, Just Do It!
     
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    Good luck! I know you'll be fine.:slight_smile:
     
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    I agree that there's never really a right time. It's important to make sure you're physically safe of course. Otherwise there's a level of sort of needing to just force yourself to do it.

    I got to a point where holding it in was as uncomfortable as talking about it. That's when I had to force a conversation to happen.
     
    #17 baristajedi, May 28, 2016
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    I came out at a really bad time in my family life.
    My grandmother was sick, my brother has work issues, and my mom has lost a job due to something beyond her.

    I just blatantly said, "mom, I think OK gay. No, I am gay"

    As has been said, she will take it as she will. You planned well and primed her foot the news.

    Good luck. Hope all is well.
     
    #18 gryf, May 28, 2016
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    Good luck, hope your talk goes well, and you find a calm moment soon. Waiting is hard sometimes.:slight_smile:
     
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    Ok guys I did it!!!!! It went extremely well and, quite frankly, my Mom already sort of knew it. It's 1:40AM here, totally worn out, but happy, safe, and accepted . I will post more tomorrow evening.

    I want to thank each and everyone of you for helping me through this. I love all of you(&&&)
     
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