Do you guys feel like through the process of coming out, that you see the world differently, like from a gay lens? I default a lot in my head to thinking that two men or two women together on the street are a couple; I default to thinking a cute girl is maybe gay (wishful thinking on that one?), listening to music I default to thinking the lyrics fit a gay theme. I love the sight of affection between members of the same sex. It moves me, I think because it's taken a long personal fight for me to see how natural my own feelings are for women. I suppose it's just that "gay" is in the front of my mind, but it's sort of lovely.
Yeah, of course, and though that may be more intensively the case during the coming out process, it will always be a little bit like that after your coming out. Though I'm married, I wanted my cute doc to be gay, too, but helas, he isn't...
Baristajedi … I've had similar experiences - seeing a cute guy, I'll say in my mind "He must be bi or gay". However I've found this can be wishful thinking - unless I see him in a gay place. There's some projection going on. I also think that when we're completely comfortable with ourselves, self identities will fall away - they're inconsequential. But I agree that when we start coming out, we see the whole world as gay! How beautiful!
Ah, why can't the cute doctor be gay? I feel you on that one That's cool to think it will always be that way. I want my world to always be a bit gay ---------- Post added 22nd Jun 2016 at 07:40 AM ---------- Does it have to fall away? I love seeing the world through gay coloured glasses.
I get this. I think it works retrospectively too. In a place I worked at years ago, there were two women who'd come in together about 3+ times a week. At the time I assumed they were friends, but now I think perhaps not. If they'd been a man and a woman, I would have assumed they were a couple. I remember them because when I had all my hair cut off (past my shoulders to a pixie cut), one of them told me it looked good and suited me. I'd never really spoken to them before, so I was surprised they'd noticed.
I know what you mean as well, since I came out to myself so much has taken on a queer vibe. cute guy on the street, wonder if he'd be interested.... cute girl, same as before but wondering how she'd feel being with a Bi person... it does make for an interesting walk through places like the mall where there are lots of people at any one time.... (!)
I've definitely become more aware I suppose. I still get those lightbulb 'oh' moments too. I'm also more confused. Now if a girl winks at me I think what does that mean!? Before I probably wouldn't have noticed.
