... Well, I'm back to 'The Market'. It's not that I expect anything to happen, and I don't really want it, still I think it's important that I go through this now : It has been 3 years since my partner died, and I've had enough of spending the weekends doing work, or in front of a screen. Besides I think I do need someone at my side, someone I can really talk to openly, and have sex with, and laugh, and the rest... So far, it has been a dissapointment after another... If you have any tips & tricks, feel free to let me know, 'cause I'm beginning to suspect I am the problem... It used to be so damned easy as I was on my 20s, even a bit of fun, now it's just :bang: ... ... I have no idea what I'm doing wrong... But I've had enough, and I'm sick and tired of the 'it's too soon now', I don't want to wake up at 64, on my own, saying this to myself AGAIN :rolle:
Hey Michael, I'm sorry to hear that you lost your partner 3 years ago (*hug*) As for dating, I take a Zen-like approach and detach myself from the outcome. My goal is to make connections with other guys, not to find a BF/partner/husband. I opened myself to making connections with other guys via the usual ways: LGBT support groups/meetups/activities; hookup/dating sites/apps; gay bars; etc. without expectation. As for the efficacy of this approach, while not a scientifically controlled study, I met my BF via a hookup using this approach. Neither one of us was looking for a relationship, yet we both knew we had a genuine connection upon which we could build a relationship. So my advice is to focus less on the outcome and more on enjoying the journey. If you have a checklist, discard it. Find someone you connect with and take it from there. HTH, SF #sfpost
I think we all have a checklist, at least of what we don't want. I'm not enjoying much the 'journey', it seems I'm stuck. I do appreciate your advice, however I'd like to hear opinions from someone who has gone through a similar situation. Can't talk much about it IRL, that's why I'm posting here.
