Ok so, I mentioned this yesterday but there's a woman at work.... It seems like each day I'm a little more ....what's the word? Today I keep walking past her office, and it has a full glass window so you can see inside. I get a little rush of warmth in my chest every time I pass by. I try to glance at her without being obvious. She has this kind of thing she does when she smiles, it's so lovely. And just now we had a meeting for the whole office, and I sat across and kind of down fairly far from her. So of course, I wanted just to take a glance at her quickly. She kind of caught my glance, and I was flooded with this feeling of...warmth and energy. I was happy that she asked a question because it was like a bonus, I could watch her talk... Nothing will ever come out of this, it's too complicated, my situation, and she being my colleague. But guys, I think I'm starting to feel lots of feelz....
You may want to consider pulling her aside and asking if she is gay. You may not like the answer, but the transparency will help minimise any risk of confusion you might develop.
Well ...I don't think that I could date her anyway. I'm already in a weird position being married, and with her being my coworker I'm thinking it might be really complicated. I just enjoy the fun of it for now. I wouldn't mind asking her more directly if we were having a drink or something. Who knows, even if she's gay, she may be in a relationship.
OnTheHighway: I think she actually suspects this woman is gay from what I have read in her earlier posts. It is the same woman right, baristajedi? That definitely sounds like a crush! At least that is exactly how I am when I have a crush. :lol: Edit because baristajedi posted while I was posting: I agree with it not being a good idea to date her. Just enjoy the fun.
I do suspect she's gay (it is the same woman I mentioned earlier), but maybe it's a lot of wishful thinking on my part. I'm just starting to develop these butterfly things. Before now it was more just her preoccupying my mind a lot. I noticed her on the first day and thought oh is she gay? She's so cute, I really like her smile, etc. Today she's wearing green...it makes here eyes stand out. Le sigh. ---------- Post added 1st Jul 2016 at 04:53 AM ---------- How do I not get hurt? I never had this kind of pure crush on a woman before....it already feels different than any of my male whatevers and female crushes from the past. So I am in completely new and unfamiliar territory here. The difference with men in my life.... I suppose there was an emotional element to feeling stuff for guys, some attraction, but much of it was sort of invented (not even sure that makes sense) or very very slow to develop. With women from my past, there was always an angsty feeling attached to everything, because I was really resisting whatever I was feeling. This feels fun and nice but a bit unfamiliar.
I have like 4 days left until then.... It's soon! (We agreed to wait until July 5....it seems like a long two weeks) And you're right, that's the right thing to focus on.
As someone who has been in this situation I would say have fun flirting but proceed with caution. Or maybe even run in the opposite direction. I ended up really falling for my work crush and got really hurt as she already has a long term gf she is happy with (and of course I have a husband). I didn't really see it coming though. If you can find someone out of the office it's much less complicated and messy
I think you're absolutely right I suppose I just am a bit caught off guard by my feelings and not sure how to run the other way, or how to convince myself to do that.... Thing is I like the feelings a lot.
It does feel pretty amazing, so feel free to take my advice with a pinch of salt Besides, you can't help what you feel!
