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I'm gay!

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by findingjoy, Jul 1, 2016.

  1. findingjoy

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    Right now it feels so good to say that.

    I am just realizing....no accepting.. I am gay. I ignored it for a long time.

    I know I am going to come down again. I know I will regret this post tomorrow- because I am on that roller coaster ride of coming out.
    Anyone else go through this?
     
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    Don't assume the worst, man! What you just did takes bravery! Bravo!
     
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    Hell. Yeah. I've gone through it.

    But the important thing is that you made another step forward. Even if you will regret this post. Congratulations. :slight_smile:
     
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    Coming out is definitely a roller-coaster! But enjoy the hoghs, they're great. Congrats on finding acceptance in yourself.
     
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    Lots of us go through it. You are not alone. I sure know I've had my up's and downs and it has gotten easier over time. But in those low moments I sure did feel alone like nobody understood what I was going through. just remember to keep your head up through the storm. You've made a big step in being here and it's worthy of an applause and congratulations. We're here if you ever need us.
     
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    Yay congrats on finding identity
     
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    Once you're at the point of being able to admit it, your shame will be so much less. It happened with me
     
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    Yes I know how it waxes and wanes over the days but maybe not anymore
     
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    Congrats on accepting yourself. The first and important step to living authentically!
     
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    Congrats on accepting yourself findingjoy!! As I've said earlier, you're making such brave steps!!

    I totally understand the ups and downs, I've been there. The bright side is, the more steps you make, the more confident you become and the low points feel a bit more manageable.

    You are doing so well!!
     
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    Yeah, yup! A lot of us went through this. Loving the gay, being unsure it was actually real, hating it and feeling yucky for being so happy about it. Just keep going through the motions, you'll come out feeling as you do now, but all the time. :slight_smile:
     
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    Thanks so much! I came back here wanting to quit this again, and yes i feel down now and was fighting it all day...

    "I know I am going to come down again. I know I will regret this post tomorrow- because I am on that roller coaster ride of coming out."​
    But i noticed I didn't write "i did this and I will regret it" I wrote that I am on the way to coming out :slight_smile:

    I wouldn't have noticed that if I didn't read your post.

    I am still confused.. but each time it's little less confusing...except when it's more confusing :slight_smile:


    Yeah this right now!! then hating it and feeling yucky. I am there right now... Every time I come here wanting to post "I think this was a mistake" I read something like this and all the excuses I make come crashing down. of course that leaves me more confused! All I can say right now is every day is different than the other and I feel like I am going somewhere.. is it to totally accepting and being gay? Right now I don't know.
     
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    I know it's hard to accept. I used to ignore myself too. Congrats :grin:
     
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    First of all, congrats on accepting who you are. Took me a while too. Saying it out loud does help though.

    Also, I have been waiting a long time for this:

    Hi Gay. I'm Dad.

    I'm sorry.
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    congrats I hope you find the strength to keep going
     
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    I feel totally like this.
    everyday is different. exciting. scary.

    I know I'm gay. emotionally it is difficult. especially because of various influences.
     
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    Congratulations!

    I know what you mean about a roller coaster! :slight_smile: And also about knowing, but not accepting.
     
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    exactly. I know I am gay, but I can't accept it, but right now I want to just to be gay. It doesn't make any sense.