It's something I've been wondering about: do I even want to succeed as a gay man? I admit, there are many things in my present condition that do hold me back compared to someone who's living openly in, say, New York or Los Angeles. But how would I know if I'm just using those things as excuses to keep myself from taking chances or being hurt?
I suppose, are you actively seeking ways around the things that are holding you back? I'm not sure what else to suggest. Do you feel that you are using excuses? For me, at the moment I have a good (I think) reason for not discussing my questioning with my partner, but just yesterday, I was wondering how good of an excuse it really is. I think if I didn't have this excuse, I'd probably have thought up another one. I have a habit of putting things off.
