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Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by prettypixie, Jul 21, 2016.

  1. prettypixie

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    Last night, my husband and I started talking after a day full of texts that contained a few like:
    "You can tell me anything."
    "I'll never judge you."
    But I was still nervous and scared to really say the words "I'm bisexual". I've never said it before to anyone, not even to myself.

    So it took a while and a lot of explaining but I did it. I finally came out. I think he has a lot of questions but I expected that and that's okay. I'm just glad he accepts it. I think he knew and was waiting on me. It is hard to accept after hiding it from myself for so long but it is definitely time to accept this part of myself.

    I'm not telling anyone else for a while. That took a lot out of me.
     
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    Oh hun, good for you!! I posted on your wall, but I just *officially* came out to my husband this past weekend after months of "Well, I'm pretty sure...no wait, maybe...okay, I think I am...but wait, maybe I just admired women." Haha.

    I haven't told anyone else in my real life either.

    Hugs to you, friend!
     
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    Good steps forward. Yay!
     
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    Yay! So good! Great job!
     
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    bet hr knew and hoped, wait for it hell be askin u if ur down for a 3 sum lol
     
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    Good for you, that's a huge step!
     
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    Thanks everyone! It was huge and I'm glad to have done it. I am working on embracing myself.
     
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    congrats. when i came out to my wife it was one of the best things i ever did!
     
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    Congratulations! That is awesome!

    I'm very happy for you (and Caliwoman too). It takes courage to do that, you did great.

    I'm bisexual, too. My wife has known for quite a while, but it has been this year that I've decided to really call myself bi, go to Pride, buy Bi Pride items, come out to friends, etc. It has been truly exhilarating and so fulfilling to me.

    Definitely it's okay to take a break and a breather now. In fact, it's probably good advice, to give your husband time to soak it in and adjust to the new you. I hope you experience the happiness we have (and Nick too, it sounds) - closer relationship and wonderful honesty. It really can be better, a lot better, when you are the true you. If you decide in a while to come out to others, great. If not, that's okay too, do what's right for you. You've taken the biggest step already, and done great.
     
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    Congratulations! :slight_smile:
     
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    Thanks so much everyone. I feel much better
     
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    Hiya and congrats Prettypixie and caliwomen for coming out and being so brave and strong. I am really glad that they are being so supportive to you.
    I came out a week ago to both my parents and my aunt via text as I knew I could say everything that I needed to. My aunt is still accepting of me but my parents are not at all and just wont talk or respond. I am just really glad that you both have had a good response, and things will and can get better from here. (*hug*)
     
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    :thumbsup:Wow that's great prettypixie!!! Congratulations
     
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    Good for you!
     
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    I hope your parents accept your sexuality. I'm glad your aunt did. So far, i have told one other friend and plan on telling another next week. Thanks for cheering me on. You're also brave.

    ---------- Post added 23rd Jul 2016 at 07:41 AM ----------

    Thanks to everyone for your support! It means a lot.
     
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    That's great news, was a busy night last night by the looks of all the posts, my wife and I figured some stuff out last night as well. (&&&)