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When does the anxiety go away?

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by LostInDaydreams, Aug 3, 2016.

  1. LostInDaydreams

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    I woke up in the middle of the night feeling very anxious, and struggled to calm down and get back to sleep. I think I'd been dreaming about placing my sexuality on a scale between 1 and 8, or something along those lines.

    Can anyone relate to this? Is this normal?

    When does the anxiety go away? I've got a feeling that it's only going to get worse.
     
  2. baristajedi

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    Well, as you can see I'm feeling a lot lately, but that at this point is due to my recent decisions. The initial anxiety of coming out for me dissipated increasingly until it suddenly was replaced by a lot of happy feelings 6-7 months in. But there were generally highs and lows before that, and certainly the highs were great, and the lows each time were a bit more manageable.

    This also came with making steps and taking actions to feel I was moving forward. So part of it is time and getting used to your new normal, while part of it is taking deliberate action.
     
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    Thanks for sharing your experiences, barista. I appreciate there are people on EC who are struggling much more than me, which in terms of taking action, is inspiring and off-putting all at once. I need to clear my head a bit, I think.

    You've been a huge source of insight for me, and I hope things improve for you.
     
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    Mine has mostly resolved now, but appears occasionally. Been almost 3 weeks since my last anxiety moment over it. I came out slowly between March and May. So, for me it was just a few months.
     
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    I've had terrible anxiety for 4 years now. Mainly due to uncertainty. I'm still unsure or unaccepting. Still trying to figure that part out. It would have been easier had I not had and enjoy opposite sex relationships and partners.