Hello, I recently re came out. I was bisexual but married to a man who was awesome for 9 years. We had two kids and ended very mutually, still friends and involved coparents. After the break up I started dating women again.. after 9 years.. wowza I reconnected with an old lover and was in a closeted lesbian relationship for one week shy of a year. We broke up. Being out was a factor. But mostly.. meshing her child and mine was the larger issue. That, and we had an open relationship, which I did not manage well. Nor did she communicate well. So, the point of going over the break up is to say... I decided to come out.. not because we where together.. but because we broke up. Honestly... I was going to come out with her pride weekend.. but we broke up instead. And then after the break up I needed to talk to my friends about the split.. and I didn't want to not lie about the situation... So now.. I handle being out. Dating women Again..and dealing with that, having a career.. and children to keep in mind. I was scared to death the entire relationship, but once I came out after the split I was pleasantly surprised. Just wanted to share my story...and get any feedback. Thank YOu.
I love your story! You are doing so well. I know what you mean about the pleasant surprise after coming out, I have felt that as well. I think your kids are lucky to have such a great mom, too, strong in being her true self. I'm bi too. My biggest challenge is explaining to straight people what it means to be bi but in an opposite-sex relationship. And why it's important to me to be out. But it's worth it in every case so far. Thanks for sharing your story, you rock!
