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Physical attraction

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by LostInDaydreams, Aug 14, 2016.

  1. LostInDaydreams

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    I'm interested to see if anyone can relate to this...

    With men, I notice if they're generally good looking or dressed well, but I don't really notice anything specific about them.

    So, with crushes on guys it's always been a personality thing, not a physical thing. Like I'd imagine living with them in a nice house, with children, etc, but not kissing them or anything. With my current partner, I took me about two months of dating to notice things about him physically (i.e. broad shoulders), so I had to think about it.

    With women, I notice specific things about them straight away, which I always assumed was a comparing thing. Recently, the comparing part has started disappearing, but I don't look at women and think 'I'd have sex with her'. I'd still have to know her a bit first.

    Can anyone relate to that?
     
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    I can relate to this very much. With men it felt like I was trying to find one I could put up with for life, a best friend to live with pretty much. It was another thing to check off my to-accomplish-in-life list. It does not compare to how I feel about women at all, where it is something I am really looking forward to and I dream of all the things we will do together etc. It is something I desire on a much deeper level, while before it was a very superficial thing.

    I also get a lot more attracted to a woman after getting to know her if I find her personality attractive. Suddenly that one chipped tooth or her wonky eye is the cutest thing ever! :lol: That is the most important thing for me. But then there are periods where I guess I am just extra horny and I get turned on just from seeing some women. I don't think I still would be comfortable having sex with them right away, it is just a physical response to what I am seeing. Personality is and has always been the most important thing for me.
     
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    I think this is true for me too.

    :lol:

    I sort of relate to this. I get more turned on by thoughts about women though, which has made questioning frustrating in more ways than one!

    For me, personality is more importance. So, I don't think I'll ever have any major celebrity crushes, for example. I'm not that great on knowing who celebrities are anyway!