Inability to reflect is multi dimensional / multi level

Reflection is great, yet I found that my progress and results were accelerated by combining reflection with action and experience in a do-reflect-iterate cycle.

For example, wouldn't the best way to reflect on guys having sex be to have sex with guys?

 

Initially, like SiennaFire, I took action and allowed little time for reflection. The actions allowed me to be vulnerable before I even realized how beneficial vulnerability is towards building confidence, self esteem and self acceptance. I essentially just charged ahead, took risks, overcame what I percieved were the odds, and progressed.

Thereafter, as my confidence, self esteem and self acceptance came into place, I was able to reflect and put the pieces together. Today, I am able to reflect and evaluate where I was comparing my history to how far I have since come. And I have made sense of what once was the "fog" as you put it as a result.

The key is making yourself vulnerable. This might be a confusing concept to comprehend, but I strongly suggest you do so. Take risks, push yourself forward, put yourself in situations you would not otherwise have done. I believe you can make progress and start to see through the "fog" by doing so.

 

Well, not the comparison I would use! But when you go out on the limb and realize it does not snap, that's when you build confidence.