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I <3 my brother and his total support

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by baristajedi, Sep 5, 2016.

  1. baristajedi

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    So yesterday I told my brother about the separation with my stbx husband. So far now, my mom, dad, stepmom and brother know. And these conversations have given me the opportunity to say, "by the way I'm not bi, I'm gay."

    He's been worried about me, kind of knowing something's wrong; and we haven't been able to talk for various reasons until yesterday. So the conversation started with him talking in his "everything's ok" voice. That made it so easy to talk without getting choked up. He offered me support and encouragement about the separation, basically that he's sure I'm doing the right thing, that we are considering our daughter's needs carefully, that she's going to adjust and be happy. He reminded me about details from our own parents' divorce and listened to my feelings and concerns about how things are going at home right now.

    And he asked me if I wanted to open up more about why it's all happening. And I told him I'm gay. He responded like it was absolutely no big deal. (He's already told me when I came out last year as bi that he loves me and is proud of me whether I'm bi, gay or whatever, basically that it's not anything that matters to him at all). He asked me about past relationships with guys and crushes on girls. And I think I explained my experiences clearly.

    And then it was almost no time before he was like, so....which girls do you like? Do you like so and so? You have to check this girl out, and tell me who else... :lol::lol::lol:

    So now it seems I'm going to be having those conversations with my bro, probably on a regular basis... :icon_bigg

    Basically, my brother's awesome.
     
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    so nice to hear barisajedi!
    It must feel good to keep taking the steps, as difficult as they are, and moving forward. I think most of the anxiety comes from not accepting it and not doing anything....
     
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    jeolous...lol...your brother is a cool dude!
     
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    Thanks findingjoy and benfreeman :slight_smile:

    I'm really lucky to have a good brother.

    I've got two sisters left to tell and then my whole family knows....
     
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    This reminds me of my brother. Took him a while to come around but he is now fully supportive of me being trans. Just today he was enthusing about us watch Supernatural and how it was awesome to see "a show about two brothers for two brothers." Made my day.

    It is remarkable what a difference a single family member can make, yeah?
     
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    So cool! I wonder if I could bring up pretty girls with my brother. :slight_smile: I've been nervous for a long time that he would realize I think his wife is super hot. Awkward...... but, maybe I could bring up tv characters or something. :slight_smile:
     
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    we need a hugh thumbs up 'like' button for posts like this......
     
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    That's such a great moment, Kodo, how awesome. It's so encouraging to have a supportive family member in your life. I'm really happy that you have that for you as well.

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    I think I'll stick to talking mostly about celebrities as well :slight_smile:

    I'm a little bit shy about it but want to be open so I'm going to try to talk about cute ladies with him...hopefully it will start to just be totally natural.

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    Thanks, lookingforme :slight_smile::kiss:
     
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    That's great Barista! Your brother does sound awesome.
     
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    Thanks Clustergazelle!!!
     
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    First,I'm from Scotland too, hi!
    Second you got a bit lucky. I tried to tell my brother a short while back and he didn't want to know. I mean he does now know but..... I'm not sure what's going on in his head. His daughters gay and my sister thinks that stuff he wanted to say to her(but felt he couldn't)he's taking out on me. That being said he texted my sister today saying he's fine with it. Hopefully he was just a bit shocked. Hopefully things will now be fine between us.

    PS isn't it true that the haggis is a small red furry creature with two legs,one shorter than the other. People don't believe me!