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Are you missing anyone right now? Struggling to get over 'em?

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by caliwoman, Oct 19, 2016.

  1. caliwoman

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    Tell me about it. I'm missing a woman and rather than be tempted to contact her, I'd rather post on here.

    So, anyone out there in the same boat and missing a same-sex romantic interest or partner?
     
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    Sorry to hear you are still thinking of her.. If it makes you feel better::icon_wink
    Yes, I am missing someone now. She's been on my mind and in my heart since a year and a half ago when I first met her.
    I am sad because realistically speaking I can never be with her.
    Love her unconditionally and hiding it damn well.
     
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    Oh gosh honey, I'm so sorry? Why can't you be with her?
     
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    Hi - sorry to hear you're feeling that way.
    It sucks completely.

    I'm in the same place. It just seems no matter what I do I cannot let this girl go.
    I was just thinking to myself, what on earth is this going to take? She haunts me!
    We have some contact but it's nothing like it was. I actually called a psychic about her
    and she told me she wants our old friendship back first but I don't know if I can let her in again.

    Ugh.

    I hope you are okay. I hope we all find amazing, fulfilling love.
     
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    So difficult, right? Do you just miss her too or are you heartbroken?


     
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    I guess it's more than just missing. But its dragged on so I am used to it now and don't feel as wrapped up in it as I once did. I just feel this sense of giving up - I don't know what else I can possibly do. So I've tried to walk away and let it be...and if things change then amazing. But I can't put anymore of myself into this.

    So it's bizarre really.

    What she may not know is how much I miss her. But you can't keep going back when a situation won't correct itself.
     
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    Hell yeah. You're not alone on this one. Miss my J every minute of every day. Still struggling to get passed the heartache and make sense of it all. BUT breaking contact at this point would be a big mistake. I would be giving the power back to her and quite frankly she doesn't deserve it. J made a choice and now she has to live with it.

    Good luck and stay strong :slight_smile:
     
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    Well I had a fallout with my bestmate a few years back. I almost fell for her, sometimes I wonder how things would be if I responded like an adult, and handled things that happened between us better. It was the first and last time I felt that way for someone.

    I don't miss her romantically though, I just miss the fun moments with her, and being one o the first people who knows almost all details of her life, I just miss my bestmate.
    We are still friends, but not that close anymore.
     
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    I miss a few people but more friend ship than love and romance. We were good friends and then I was in a situation where either I let her go or I die. Simple as that. No one's seen my one friend in years. I hope she's still alive and got her kid to an okay place.
     
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    I miss a close friend. It was short, intense and sweet which later became painful and bitter after i realised that i was in it alone. Right now its just missing...the pain and bitterness are gone.
     
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    I was in the hospital at one point due to suicidal thoughts and PTSD. While I was there I met a guy who was my only friend in there. I ended up developing a crush on him. I was in there for a week and left. Due to his suicidal thoughts, I'm not sure if he's even alive.
     
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    Because married, let her know my feelings which has put a huge gap between us.
    I have loved before, but not like this. It is crazy to be committed as heterosexual, when loving someone else, another woman, who I have not even dated. But now I know it is possible (haha).
     
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    I have two female crushes that sorta changed my life and yeah I've been thinking about them a lot recently. We're still friends so I'll see them at some point but its sort of in a melancholy way like "I wish I could feel like that for someone else" particularly maybe this boy who is totally after me... But I am quite indifferent to him.
     
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    Sorry to hear that.
    Yes, I miss the only woman I know. We were close friends, got involved romantically as a threesome with my husband later. It ended sourly, but we are still friends. . . Not as close as we were. I will not give her the power and break off communication first. But I miss everything about her - her hair, her lips, her hands. . . heck, everything. I am heart broken and still picking up the pieces, what we both want is different and I am not going to settle for an occasional hook up when she is drunk. She invited me over last night but I did not open the message and replied this morning with a "I fell asleep" excuse. Yeah, missing someone sucks *hugs*
     
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    I miss a woman that I hardly know! I think it would be a great match, but now she has gone quiet. She was burned by a newbie...

    Totally frustrating!