How did you feel? Mine came off last week. (I caught it on something and grazed my finger, and didn't want my finger to swell. But it didn't, and it's healed, but my ring is still off.) I felt a bit liberated actually. Although no-one has commented on it. One more step. X
I feel good about it, hexamum, thanks for asking. When I told my wife this morning that I was taking it off, she said that she figured I would be taking it off by today. Why today? Because I'm going to a gay bar tonight for the first time ever. Not a big deal, really, it's just a bar. I'll be going with a few friends as a Coming Out Celebration. It's just that I've never actually been to a gay bar before. Seemed weird to go there with a ring on my finger though, and I've been thinking about when to take it off, so I decided today might as well be the day.
Hey, Big step I recall taking mine off and it felt really liberating but also sad, everything that it represented. The security and trust of a life partner. *Big hug* Have an awesome night tonight xx
It's obvious I've taken a ring off though. It's left a dent! I had thought of replacing it with another ring, so it didn't look strange, but it'll still signify attachment. Enjoy your evening. Exciting!!
Took mine off last month after coming out to my wife. It's a strange feeling without it but I also feel freedom and the start of a new chapter in my life. Next step is to sell the marital home. Congratulations and enjoy yourself tonight.
Congratulations on this big step of taking off the ring and going to the gay bar. It takes time for the indentation to go away. How was it? Gay bars can be so much fun (!)
I haven't taken my wedding ring off. That will probably be part of a "new beginnings" party that my wife and I are considering around the time our planned divorce becomes final. Sort of an un-marriage ceremony to formally acknowledge my coming out and the change in our relationship.
Good for you. I am glad you took that step. I still haven't. It's been four years since I came out as a lesbian to my husband. I truly thought I could stay married to him and have a girlfriend but now I realize it's not enough. I'm now facing the reality that I can't stay married to him and be satisfied with just having a girlfriend. So when I take my ring off finally, it will be because I have told him I can't stay married to him. That thought is simultaneously frightening and liberating.
I have not taken my band off and had no real plans to. The bond is still there with my wife. It's a bit banged up and damaged and oh so fragile. but the bond still holds. I hope to hold it together. As does she.but if it should fail and we permanently separate. Then yes I would remove it. Until then we shall try to to move forward. I with discovery of all that I've missed along with who I am and was meant to be. Her with acceptance and rediscovery of herself and what she really wants. This is still all so new to me and her.
