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I have no idea what I'm doing

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by hangwithmejoe, Nov 27, 2016.

  1. hangwithmejoe

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    I'm 46, and I've been out of the bisexual closet for decades. That's not a big deal. I've been married to a man for 20 years. Last month I bought some men's clothes and fragrance, and as of yesterday, I've named the male part of me 'Joe'.

    I haven't said a word to the husband yet. What do I say? I'm in my 40's, I'm pretty sure it's not a midlife crisis, but damn.
     
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    Hi hangwithmejoe, welcome to EC! I haven't got any advice for you myself, but I'm sure you'll find EC to be supportive and helpful. Best wishes, and keep posting. :slight_smile:
     
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    Thanks! I'm glad I found this place (I just hit up Google).
     
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    Hi hangwithmejoe,

    Welcome to EC! I have been questioning my gender as well, and going though some of those same steps. How do you feel when you wear men's clothes? How does it feel to call yourself Joe?

    I find this process to be quite confusing. It has shaken my sense of selfi all over again. But for me it's felt like steps towards knowing the full me.

    Keep posting and reading others' stories. Glad to have you here.
     
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    That sounds so adventurous! I would frame it as exploring and expanding. If I were your hubby I would be fascinated. Giving things names is a way both to control and experience them, and it sounds very creative of you. Good luck!